u/BasterMaitingJonkler

me and my best friend have been friends since we were 12. we became friends mainly because of similar interests in k-pop. we were dumb kids back then, simping over our biases, fantasizing, making jokes, basically making our whole personalities about them. we bonded over it.

we’re 18 now. i've mostly grown out of that phase and i'm not really a hardcore follower anymore, but she still is. she listens to all their music, interviews, shows, everything. which is fine, and i understand why she's attached to them. she spends most of her time studying for entrance exams, barely socializes (according to her), and BTS' music helped her through a lot of difficult periods in her life.

but lately it feels like she's still emotionally stuck in that childhood fangirl phase, and it's not exactly exhausting but i really don't know how to deal with it, and i feel it is one of the reasons for why i've been feeling distant from her.

almost every other day she tells me she dreamt about them and what happened in the dream. one time she called me crying because she couldn't attend their comeback concerts. she also told me listening to their music gives her anxiety attacks because of the FOMO she feels. i suggested maybe taking a break from listening to their music until her exams are over, which she agreed to at first, but ended up listening to them anyway.

today she got upset because another childhood friend of hers has the same bias as her, and she jokingly said the other girl has "eyes on her man."

that's when i finally told her that it was funny when we were kids because we were just being cringe, but now it feels a bit weird and repetitive to me. i think she misunderstood what i meant though. now she thinks i'm uncomfortable with her simping over celebrities in general or that i'm trying to change her.

she told me she's obviously not serious and that she just says these things because they make her laugh when she feels low. she also said "if my mom doesn't have a problem with my delusions, why do you?" she said it not in a rude way, but i don't know if she really meant it that way, because she tends to misunderstand my tone a lot and we end up having arguments over misunderstandings.

i don't even know if i'm being judgmental here. i know fandoms can be comforting and harmless fun. i think i'm just drained because i have a lot on my plate to deal with lately, and it kind of feels like these conversations have become a routine and i don't know how to respond anymore without sounding mean.

not sure if this is appropriate to post here, but me and my best friend have been friends since we were 12. we became friends mainly because of similar interests in k-pop. we were dumb kids back then, simping over our biases, fantasizing, making jokes, basically making our whole personalities about them. we bonded over it.

we’re 18 now. i've mostly grown out of that phase and i'm not really a hardcore follower anymore, but she still is. she listens to all their music, interviews, shows, everything. which is fine, and i understand why she's attached to them. she spends most of her time studying for entrance exams, barely socializes (according to her), and BTS' music helped her through a lot of difficult periods in her life.

but lately it feels like she's still emotionally stuck in that childhood fangirl phase, and it's not exactly exhausting but i really don't know how to deal with it, and i feel it is one of the reasons for why i've been feeling distant from her.

almost every other day she tells me she dreamt about them and what happened in the dream. one time she called me crying because she couldn't attend their comeback concerts. she also told me listening to their music gives her anxiety attacks because of the FOMO she feels. i suggested maybe taking a break from listening to their music until her exams are over, which she agreed to at first, but ended up listening to them anyway.

today she got upset because another childhood friend of hers has the same bias as her, and she jokingly said the other girl has "eyes on her man."

that's when i finally told her that it was funny when we were kids because we were just being cringe, but now it feels a bit weird and repetitive to me. i think she misunderstood what i meant though. now she thinks i'm uncomfortable with her simping over celebrities in general or that i'm trying to change her.

she told me she's obviously not serious and that she just says these things because they make her laugh when she feels low. she also said "if my mom doesn't have a problem with my delusions, why do you?" she said it not in a rude way, but i don't know if she really meant it that way, because she tends to misunderstand my tone a lot and we end up having arguments over misunderstandings.

i don't even know if i'm being judgmental here. i know fandoms can be comforting and harmless fun. i think i'm just drained because i have a lot on my plate to deal with lately, and it kind of feels like these conversations have become a routine and i don't know how to respond anymore without sounding mean.

note : used ai to correct grammatical errors

i need help with colleges in mumbai/thane. im currently preparing for ca foundation, and i got my 12th hsc board results (68% overall, 70% considering the best 5) yesterday, and the results are very disappointing too ngl and im kinda stressed about colleges now because i was expecting much higher marks (im applying for revaluation of papers hopefully marks increase). what colleges can i apply to with this percentage which won't hinder my preparation for CA?

im currently preparing for ca foundation, and i got my 12th hsc board results (68% overall, 70% considering the best 5) yesterday, and the results are very disappointing too ngl and im kinda stressed about colleges now because i was expecting much higher marks (im applying for revaluation of papers hopefully marks increase). what colleges can i apply to with this percentage which won't hinder my preparation for CA?