u/Baseball-gal-21

Hi all, I’d love some insight into a dilemma I’ve been having (mostly in my own head). My husband (28M) and I (28F) had our first baby last August. He was born with some complications, and we spent a month in the NICU. It was extremely difficult, but all of the scary “maybes” turned out to be best case scenario. He is thriving.

I announced his birth on social media. I am by no means an influencer. I’ve had my Facebook and instagram accounts since high school, so I have maybe somewhere between 600-1000 friends/followers.

Everyone wants to know how he was doing given his tough start. We also live far from family, and I have a very large extended family. I love seeing photos of my cousins kids. It’s so exciting to see their growing personalities and accomplishments, even if these aren’t cousins or family members with whom I keep in regular contact.

I always assumed I would post photos of my kids and family! However, I’m noticing more and more of my social media friends not showing their kids faces or blurring them. Don’t get me wrong, most still do show their kids, but I can tell we’re trending away from that as a society.

I’m really struggling. I love my little family, and I’m so proud of our strong baby boy! I want to show him off! But every time I go to post, I get an icky feeling. I can’t quite pinpoint why. Where is this feeling coming from?

Here’s the deal. My husband doesn’t care either way. He’s not super involved in social media. But I’ve already had to stall my mom and MIL from posting photos of him. Is it worth it? I’ll have to make it a whole thing, and I’m wondering if there’s a point. In 13-14 years, won’t he want his own social media anyway? What’s the point of fighting so hard to keep his face off of it when kids will blast their own photos in a handful of years? Realistically, I can’t keep him from having his own social media, even if he’s still a minor.

Is it worth the fight? Tell me the pros and cons. I know Reddit tends to take everything to the extreme, but I’d really like some outside opinions. I’m a pretty anxious person, and this will likely keep bothering me until I make a conscious decision one way or another.

Any insight would be appreciated!

TLDR: I’m a new mom who always assumed she share her baby on social media for the sake of friends and family who live across the country. I’ve recently been feeling yucky about it for reasons I can’t really articulate. What’s the right answer here? I’m just a regular girl in her twenties, not an influencer or anything.

Hi all, I’d love some insight into a dilemma I’ve been having (mostly in my own head). My husband (28M) and I (28F) had our first baby last August. He was born with some complications, and we spent a month in the NICU. It was extremely difficult, but all of the scary “maybes” turned out to be best case scenario. He is thriving.

I announced his birth on social media. I am by no means an influencer. I’ve had my Facebook and instagram accounts since high school, so I have maybe somewhere between 600-1000 friends/followers.

Everyone wants to know how he was doing given his tough start. We also live far from family, and I have a very large extended family. I love seeing photos of my cousins kids. It’s so exciting to see their growing personalities and accomplishments, even if these aren’t cousins or family members with whom I keep in regular contact.

I always assumed I would post photos of my kids and family! However, I’m noticing more and more of my social media friends not showing their kids faces or blurring them. Don’t get me wrong, most still do show their kids, but I can tell we’re trending away from that as a society.

I’m really struggling. I love my little family, and I’m so proud of our strong baby boy! I want to show him off! But every time I go to post, I get an icky feeling. I can’t quite pinpoint why. Where is this feeling coming from?

Here’s the deal. My husband doesn’t care either way. He’s not super involved in social media. But I’ve already had to stall my mom and MIL from posting photos of him. Is it worth it? I’ll have to make it a whole thing, and I’m wondering if there’s a point. In 13-14 years, won’t he want his own social media anyway? What’s the point of fighting so hard to keep his face off of it when kids will blast their own photos in a handful of years? Realistically, I can’t keep him from having his own social media, even if he’s still a minor.

Is it worth the fight? Tell me the pros and cons. I know Reddit tends to take everything to the extreme, but I’d really like some outside opinions. I’m a pretty anxious person, and this will likely keep bothering me until I make a conscious decision one way or another.

Any insight would be appreciated!

TLDR: I’m a new mom who always assumed she share her baby on social media for the sake of friends and family who live across the country. I’ve recently been feeling yucky about it for reasons I can’t really articulate. What’s the right answer here? I’m just a regular girl in her twenties, not an influencer or anything.