hays di na naman ako nakaaral kagabi dahil sa kakanood ng news na baka maging bar q. what a time to be a law student, indeed!
People who feel that they can't have in any way a decent life without another person are going to make bad choices, because they will be more interested in finding someone, anyone than the right person. So, in a way, the guarantee of a good relationship is a fairly relaxed relationship to your own, solitary life.
For many people, being alone is equated with not being chosen, with something being wrong with you. Healthier people don't think that. Health means thinking, 'I'm on my own. That doesn't mean there's something bad about me. It means that I'm choosy, and the reason that I'm choosy is that I've got standards, that I expect certain things from other people, and if I'm not getting them, I prefer to guard my own peace than to throw my lot in someone who will be a compromise candidate.'
It always comes back to childhood. The more as a child, you were able to feel that you were a good person that other people would be pretty fortunate to be around. The more as an adult, when you are alone, the more you think 'Well, this isn't some self-imposed prison sentence. It's the result of the fact that I've got a lot to offer people. And right now, there's no one who I want to offer my goodies to. And therefore, I'm going to be utterly fine with my own company.'
--quoted from The School of Life
Post a pic of your mother in the comments!
Time don't give refunds. You won't be able to get back the time you spent in INC. Recently, I've seen some comments in this sub about 30ish peeps regretting their wasted time, thus this post.
You probably won't be able to do it in an instant. That's why I suggest you plan it. Take small but concrete actions towards leaving, like reducing your engagements with the church and its members.
Then, fill that space in your life with other engagements which you value. Do these enough times and your life will change enough that the next natural step would be to completely leave. That is, of course, if you are already decided to leave.
I have sooo much story to tell you all, but this is enough catharsis for now. Peace be with you all!