Is it harder to be secure in yourself if you transitioned later in life?
That's it, that's the question. I fell in love with an older trans woman. She has about 5 years into her transition. I genuinely love her but I don't know what to do to help her. She thinks rushing into sex will help but she's had a history of being assaulted and fetishized and I've been assaulted too. So I don't think that's the best route. I want something serious with her but she keeps pushing me away saying she isn't girlfriend material or she's ugly or she hates her voice and body. It breaks my heart. I'm a cisgender woman and it's the first time I've fallen for someone outside of a cisgender straight man. I'm pretty sure I'm Demisexual, I don't fall easily for people and have to know them very well. But anyway, what do I do? I'm in my late twenties she's 50 and her ex divorced her because she transitioned. I'm not sure how to help. It's been 8 months. I just want to go steady with her.