u/BackgroundChance4382

Hey fellow INFJs…. I was talking to a new guy, and we went on a few dates together. He was very sweet, ambitious, and for the first time I thought I found someone that checked all my boxes.

I thought I would show my appreciation and I painted him an oil painting… he said he wanted to be surprised by it, but the next day he suddenly stopped responding and later told me he doesn’t have time for a relationship. He was very kind about it and complimented me, and said he believes in making time for things that matter but due to how busy he is won’t have time for a relationship in a healthy way. He said he still wants to keep in touch but I declined.

I’m feeling embarrassed for showing some vulnerability and creating something for someone, and the next day for them to end things. I wonder if it’s an INFJ to express things too early… it had only been three weeks.

Edit: thank you for all of the encouraging words and kindness. I won’t let this stop me from expressing vulnerability, I will just be more careful and wait longer next time. I read each response<3