u/Background-Base130

I grew up without much of a fun family vibe eg no movie nights, no things that were really special to our family or inside jokes etc everyone was quite separate and i remember being so jealous of families that actually enjoyed each others company and had fun.

now have a 4 and 1 year old and I can feel myself replicating this eg everything seems calm so I find myself sneaking off to watch my own show, desperate to get slivers of alone time. I really want to make an effort to change this before it’s too late.

anyone got any stories of similarly turning a family dynamic around? I know this is more a me problem really but looking for some positive stories. feeling a bit defeated that despite my best intentions i seem to be turning into my parents!!!

I’m waiting for an appointment with the NHS - virtual but untill then I just need some glimmers of hope as I’m feeling down

almost 1 year post partum and im still feeling a bulging after big days out etc im always *aware* of my vagina - wether it’s more discharge, bulging etc

ive tried to be really disciplined with my kegals again but now think I’ve made it worse - tried doing the technique correctly but now it’s caused constipation and no help in the bulging.

i know there’s other things that can help eg squats, glute bridge etc so I’ll try that and give kegals a rest u till my NHs appointment.

basically - has anyone managed to resolve a mild prolapse even after 1 year???

my reception age daughters primary school has DBS cleared helpers for various things. one includes swimming and helping get them changed.

this includes male helpers (dads) helping in the girls changing rooms.

this seemed wild to me but others I mentioned to didn’t seem fussed…

what’s everyones experience / thoughts?!

not Brene Brown pls - thank you!

edit: thank you for all of the great suggestions!!

back to work after maternity leave - the actual work is fine but the work days as a whole im just finding so full on.

The rushing out the door to get everyone out at certain times. then my lunch break is used for school pick up then later go get the baby then juggle dinner bath bed - I’m pysically knackered in the evening and so snappy and irritated. it’s just 5 days of giving your child instructions instead of spending any quality calm time with them.

how to find joy in the mayhem?!