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We started talking in August, been official since March. We had the “exclusive” talk in September but I was still acting bit wishy washy because I truly wasn’t ready for a relationship. We talked everyday but I was entertaining other girls around the time. She wanted things like my location, for me to call more, but ig I wasn’t ready for all that but overall we never really had any bad arguments or anything during that time.

Fast forward to a couple of days ago we were having a talk about wildest things we’ve done and she did shock me so I was a bit befuddled and quiet for the rest of the convo until I got home and we got on the phone and somehow started having a transparent conversation in which I told her that I slept with someone in Late November( I met that person around the same time I met my girl) then she told me she also slept with someone around October/November (she met them in October)

The thing is we’ve spoke about the person she slept with because she told she had a coworker who tried to hit on her but she shut it down because she had a man. I know I can’t be mad but I’m more so mad that she downplayed what the coworker really was, and how quick she gave it up to him. We’re supposed to go on vacation in 2 weeks for my bday and I was supposed to meet her mom but I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this situation.

Me and my girl who met and started talking in August and have been official since March both slept with other people during our “talking” stage. Hers was in November and mine was in December.

The only reason I know is cause we were talking about wild things we’ve done and it turned into a open confession type of convo where I basically told her I slept with someone in October (I lied about the month) then she told me she also slept with someone in November. I then came clean and told her I actually slept with the person in December and was entertaining another (Nothing happened but making out).

Basically after 2-3 months of us talking she asked me what we were and I told her we can be exclusive (September). But I was a bit wishy washy I won’t lie. The thing is we’ve talked about the person she’s slept with before. At the time she told me he a coworker made a move on her but she didn’t entertain it because she was with me. She told me she set boundaries and it’s strictly work related. They met in September and slept with eachother in November. She claims she did it because I was not serious towards her and she didn’t know where we were headed. And I won’t lie I was acting weird at times maybe because I was entertaining other people but she was definitely receiving way more of my attention. Fast forward to today she came clean and told me it was deeper than that. She slept with him once and hung out 2 times. She told me he knew she was talking to me and he still pursued. It got to a point she was crying to him about me and you know what they say “A shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride on “. That’s the part that gets me.

Mind you me and her had already slept with eachother before she did with said person. I know I’m wrong and have no right to be mad but she did hers before me. No I did not know at the time but I met the person I slept with around the same time I met my girl and I was giving my girl more attention and me the other person would just text to hangout. We probably hung out 3-4 times before we slept with eachother. This happened in a span of 4 months because like I said I was giving my girl more attention.

I know I can’t be mad but it just hurts cause she only fucked him because she claims I was not “acting right” she lied to me multiple times about the type of relationship they had and she told me she was going to tell me eventually.