u/Azura_Starman72

I've gotten sexually assaulted a few times before but this isn't about my attacks.

I'm going to college soon (YAYYYYY I ACTUALLY AM GRADUATING!!) but something happened. I have a couple of junior girls who are my friends who have gotten groped multiple times by this one guy. Multiple times, multiple girls. But this guy is going to be Senior Class President. I felt I had to do something.

I reported the attacks that I had heard of and even got these sweet girls to share their stories. It was all for nothing at all.

He is STILL going to be the senior class president. They are sending him to a CAMP mind you (where student gov goes during the summer). I met with administration once again yesterday and they just kept saying, "We can't tell you anything" "anyone can be an offender" "the case is closed." Are. You. Joking. Me? I had made these girls open up, be vulnerable, share their stories, and they STILL sided with the offender. I broke down in that office and I couldn't even bring up the points I wanted to bring up or the laws that says schools HAVE to protect. They didn't even get the police involved. I even said "Well Jeremiah is either going to assault someone worse because he realizes he can get away with this kind of stuff or one of the girls is going to take their own lives because of the stress." Because that is EXACTLY what happened to me. I am living in this deja vu.

I guess moral of the story I'm so done. I hate men. I hate those administrators. Hell I even hate school!! I have tried and tried and lost sleep over this. My nightmares (from my PTSD) are coming back. My mother says I'm pushing myself too hard and I think she's right. But how do you just sit idle and LET this happen?? They did NOTHING with my case and they're doing nothing with this case. I'm so done with the "see something say something" because why aren't the adults who are SUPPOSED to be protecting these poor children aren't?? THIRD report I've ever made to this school. How DEPRAVED do we need to get for them to ACTUALLY care?? "A sixteen year old gets raped... welllll we can look the other way. A four year old though? NOW we have to put a stop to this!!"

I can't anymore. If anyone has any advice on how to know your limits please tell.

Hello hello all you sex-positive lovely people!!

So first off I wanna say I'm young so my questions might seem freaking STUPID. I also grew up in deep LDS Utah and I'm using this kind of as a throw-away account because I'm embarrassed!! ANYWHO:

So I am TERRIFIED at the thought of sex. Specifically because I'm a woman. I mean... what's the big idea about the hymen breaking and you can bleed??? And I WANNA give pleasure to my man when the time comes but I KNOW I'm just going to be clenching. I've been reading some past posts but I wanna see if anyone has fresh advice or just wants to tell me to take a deep breath. So if someone (especially a fellow LADYYYYY) can hold my hand and tell me to put on my big girl pants that would be AWESOME.

1. MOOD. How the HECK do you start the freaky mood?? Do I just like... go up and be like "Sex. Now. 🤤" I laugh when I'm nervous so am I gonna laugh during sex?? Also... do I need to practice moaning cause idk how to 💀

2. Sooooo what do you MEAN it can take a long time for a woman to orgasm?? Is like... is it not gonna feel good in me? Am I just gonna clench so hard?? The ONLY sex talk I've ever heard was from my dad once and he said to use a lotttttt of lube but shouldn't I be like... idk wet enough?

3. KINKS. HOWWWWW DO I EVEN START THAT CONVERSATION?? "Hey babe soooo... you wanna try a spreader bar??" And there are SOOOO many kinks so how do I know when like... too far is too far yk? (Ofc not anything illegal but like I've seen some people get aroused by like blood)

4. I have never masturbated and I don't think I'm going to yet (I'M SCAREDDDD) but like I tried touching myself once, didn't orgasm, and gave up. How will I know if I've reached orgasm?? I've gotten to the point where like.. I'll be wet and stuff and then it'll feel good but then it'll just stop. Like no big grand finale or anything. Soooo... is that an orgasm?? Cause I am NOT wowed if that's how us ladies orgasm 💀

5. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT MY LABIA IS SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE I'VE SEEN SO MANY DIFFERENT PICTURES 😭

6. Also... what is my vagina supposed to smell/taste/whatever like?? Cause I know it's not supposed to stink or whatever but like... it's an organ?? Is it supposed to like... not smell fishy?? This is my biggest question I want answered

SORRY FOR THE LONG POST BYE BYE GUYSSSS