Hi everyone,
I’m a 27-year-old woman and I had sex for the first time about a year ago. Before that, I’d had a hymenectomy, but penetration was still painful and difficult. My partner at the time was above average in size, and his penis wouldn’t fully go in.
Now, a year later, I’ve started casually seeing someone new for the past few weeks. He’s also above average in size. We’ve had sex a few times, and while parts of it have been nice, I still feel like it’s not as comfortable or enjoyable as it could be.
The main issue is that penetration still hurts at first. Once he’s in, it usually gets better, but I still feel some discomfort, almost like a slight burning sensation. He’s also mentioned that I feel very tight.
Another thing I’ve noticed is that during penetration, I sometimes feel pressure toward my rectum, almost like I suddenly need to poop. I’m not sure if that’s normal, related to the angle/depth, or something else.
I also get extremely wet. Like, noticeably wet. He has commented on it, but in my head I’m confused because I don’t always feel especially turned on in those moments. Can wetness happen separately from feeling mentally horny?
This is all still very new territory for me, so I’d really appreciate any advice, especially from people who have dealt with pain/tightness, discomfort during penetration, or learning what feels normal during sex.
Thank you 🫶🏼