u/AwesomeexSauce98

Long story short, I experienced a lot of emotional and mental trauma while with my ex when I was pregnant and even after having our 1 month old. Every time I talk to him, even if it is about our kid it feels like an old wound opening back up and I have to start healing all over again.

Over the past week, I have been asking him for space but he still finds a way to create fake number to contact me or call me from an unknown number. He left a voicemail saying he just wants to talk about our kid and that’s all. I told him that if he would like to talk about our child, he can go through his mom or mine until I take some time for myself and that’s when he replied, f**k that and hung up.

I’m out of options because we do have to communicate for the sake of the baby, but right now I feel comfortable having a support person step in to help communicate until I feel ready. Why is he doing this? He is also still involved with the woman he left me for.

Has anyone else’s baby father try to come back in their lives after leaving you for another woman or their other baby mother?

I’m just curious to know because I currently have a one month old with a man who has another 1 month old due to cheating on me while we were together. I recently cut off contact with him due to him flirting with me and him having no interest in seeing our baby.

Even though he hurt me, I still miss him and the idea of us being a family. I know this is the postpartum in me talking, but I just want to know if anyone has experienced something similar and if they ever came back or tried to.

Me and my ex share a 1 month old and I agreed to letting him take her a couple times a week for a few hours if I can meet the gf who is living with him. He told me that it’s not necessary for me to do that and is basically saying it’s my fault if I don’t allow our daughter to go over there just because I can’t meet the gf.

Mind you, his gf is a woman he left me for and impregnated while I was pregnant so our kids are literally weeks apart. It’s a messy situation and I understand he may be wanting to “keep the peace”, but as a mom I don’t feel right if I don’t have a feel of who will be around my child, especially if it’s a long-term situation.

I would like my daughter to see her father, but I don’t think he’s ever going to come to terms with my request. Am I being unreasonable and what can I do in this situation?

SN: I am not “withholding” my daughter. He visited her at my home a few times the first couple of weeks she was born and the visits went well. As soon as the other child was born he stopped visiting and began making excuses. He knows coming to my place is an option but chooses not to.

Long story short, my ex/bd left me while I was 6 months pregnant to be with another woman he got pregnant during the same time as me. I was extremely hurt and despite all of it, I agreed to allow him to be a father to our newborn and sign the birth certificate.

Our daughter is now 4 weeks old and I am still experiencing postpartum and grieving what he did to me. I grieve not having the family I wanted and being betrayed. We do go half on formula, wipes and diapers when needed, but him only coming around 2 times a week to see her triggers me so much because it makes it harder for me to heal. When we’re together those couple of times out of the week, I feel good. But as soon as he leaves to go take care of his other family I get depressed and the hurt starts all over again.

Yesterday, I couldn’t take the loneliness and hurt anymore, so I blocked him without an explanation. I do want our child to have a relationship with him someday, but right now doesn’t feel right because at the end of the day he didn’t choose her and I’m still grieving. He also breadcrumbs me and tells me just enough to make me feel stuck. He’s now currently calling from unknown numbers and calling me a “dumb b***h” and telling me to unblock him.

I feel like I’m doing what’s best for me and my child at the moment, but at the same time, I feel wrong because I’m allowing my emotions to stop him from coming around. What are your thoughts?