I (31F) met a guy through an arranged setup a few months ago. From the beginning, things felt really natural. We spoke every day, morning and night, had great conversations, and I genuinely felt a strong connection after a long time.
Our families were involved as well. I visited him multiple times (around 4), and he came once to meet my family. Everything felt aligned — values, background, lifestyle. At one point, I really believed this was it.
Then suddenly, things shifted.
In the last 10–15 days, his energy changed. He brought up concerns like emotional expectations, sexual compatibility, and a few logistical issues. Some of these things had never been serious concerns earlier. It felt like he had already checked out before actually ending things.
What hurt the most was not just the breakup, but how it ended. There was no real closure, no proper conversation to wrap things up. After everything we built — daily calls, family involvement — it just… stopped.
His parents also never reached out after that, which added to the confusion.
It’s been around 4 months now. I’ve met other people since, but nothing has clicked the same way. I don’t even want to go back to him, but I find myself stuck on the “why”.
Was it something I did?
Did he just lose interest?
Was he never that serious to begin with?
I know logically it just didn’t work out. But emotionally, it’s been hard to process how something that felt so real could end so abruptly.
Has anyone experienced something like this? How did you actually move on from not having proper closure?