We have been on a relationship for more than 3 years now. Her possessiveness is killing me mentally. After like 1 month into our relationship she demanded all my social media account passwords. She said i can have her social media accounts aswell. But I didn’t even tried to log in even though she gave me her passwords because i trust her and i don’t want to be insecure. I was in love so i gave my passwords to her she had access to my facebook, instagram, TikTok and etc. For example in Instagram, she reduced my 600 following to 300 by unfollowing 99.9% of the females including my friends and celebrities. In facebook she unfriends every female she saw when scrolling through the friend list. I asked why and she said she should be the only female in your life, “ why do you want to look at other females when you have me” and other stuff. Watching porn is prohibited and any group or page that posts regarding girls or sexual stuff is blocked if she sees them. She said you can accept requests but never send requests of follow back a female ever. After time she said i cant accept a request from female either. In my instagram she checks the following count every day to see whether i have followed someone new. If it is a female she would fight me a mentally drown me until i unfollow them. We fought about this and i deleted my instagram and changed my passwords of facebook and TikTok for my mental peace. Even in WhatsApp i have to and I’m only allowed to have a couple photo of me and her as the DP. Last seen is mandatory.
When im going out with my friends i have to frequently send her updates and photos of what am doing blah blah blah. And she would stalk my friends facebook stories to see whether i have done something that I haven’t gave her the update on.
If there are females involved she would constantly msg me and saying stuff that is mentally exhausting and i am in a bad mood for the whole day.
Going through my university years was the toughest part. She would follow all the females if they are in a group work with me regarding a university project. I didn’t even follow them but she has. So she can see if they upload a picture or something with me involving to crash at me. I had like 4/5 saved numbers of my university female friends she asked me to delete them and only chat in the group chat no private msgs. I said that is bullshit and you don’t know what a university project like. So she blocked them from calling and im only allowed to msg them if i want to. If they ask me for help i should reply atleast 5/6 hours after the msg. She said if you reply quickly them think im in love with them. And i am not allowed to talk to them when we are physically in thr university i should ignore them completely. As soon as the lectures are over i have to go home and she dont like when i go to the university early as well. Maybe she thinks i have time to talk to girls when i arrived early or stayed late.
When we meet she checks my phone everytime she get the chance to. She delete numbers and unfriend unfollow people on social media even though it has been 3 years and i didnt cheat her once. She also check the watched video history to see whether i watched any video of girls dancing or any erotic stuff.
Im mentally so tired of this I don’t know what to do. It has been 3+ years and i think i lost my potential because of her. I have to tell exact details of everything i do and that made me not do stuff. Stuff that is normal to others are cheating stuff or bad stuff according to her. I have met her family and they are lovely people. They are the exact reason why i am still with her. Someone please help me to go on from this. She is not with me for money and she doesn’t interact much with males either. What can i do?