u/Aware_Beautiful1994

We have a 13 month old daughter. We've travelled internationally with her multiple times which went good so we don't mind travelling with her. Especially if it's to new places and new experiences.

But if it's just a visit with the grandparents? I hate it. My parents live almost 1.5 hours away. It use to be totally fine before she was born and even when she was younger. I drive 1.5 hours a couple times a week for work. I don't mind driving at all. But I don't want to do this with a toddler. My parents have a beautiful house and LOVE hosting. Seriously, every time they have us over they have the biggest spread of food.

But with a toddler, I hate going over now. She has one nap a day in the middle of the day now, so we can't even time the car rides around her naps anymore (it was easier with 2 naps). She also falls asleep less easily in her car seat now. So we spend the car ride with a crying baby. OR we have to try to keep her awake on the way home because if she falls asleep then we need to push bedtime back which we don't want to do because we want a break. But keeping her awake in the car can be stressful.

But my mom is really upset that we don't want to visit them as often. I'm not saying never, but less often. They're more than welcome to come here though.

Maybe I just want validation? Am I the asshole for not wanting to visit them as much?

My daughter is almost 13 months old. She started daycare (a home daycare) a couple of weeks ago. It's going as can be expected with a 12 month old in the midst of separation anxiety, but she is doing really well. Still cries a lot at drop off, but is settling down a lot quicker and is having plenty of good moments at daycare. Yesterday she even started babbling a bit at daycare (she babbles a ton at home but is more shy in newer situations). So it sounds like she is transitioning really well and the daycare provider is very pleased with the transition so far.

However, the daycare provider told us that she is having trouble with transitions. She gets upset and cries. She cries during *some* transitions at home, but most of the time she's ok. She cries when we are making dinner (she wants food NOW), she cries while getting ready for bed, whenever we put her in the crib for sleep and diaper changes (omg diaper changes). But otherwise doesn't cry when we switch activities or leave places. We go to the library and playgroups and she's never cries when we left. However, the daycare provider mentioned she always cries whenever they leave somewhere. She takes them to playgroups and our daughter cries when leaving their house and when leaving the playgroup. Maybe she's just nervous?

Is this normal when starting daycare? I am a first time parent constantly googling whether X or Y is normal lol.

My daughter is 12 months old (almost 13 months). She's hilarious and I LOVE watching her learn new things. She learned to shake her head "no" a few weeks ago. She will point at things she's not suppose to play with and shake her head no. For example, she always points at outlets and then shakes her head. She will start to try to pull off my glasses, stop herself and shake her head. It's the cutest thing!