Mil going crazy
Trigger warning: sexual abuse
My MIL went crazy because we didn’t invite her to my sons 2nd birthday party. We have had COUNTESS issues with her disrespecting and not listening to our boundaries. She doesn’t think it’s right that she can’t babysit (even tho she and her boyfriend smoke weed inside) The main one, she doesn’t believe it’s right to keep our children from her other son (their uncle) who has displayed grooming behaviors towards our son and has sexually abused a child in the past. She thinks I’m only keeping them away because he’s a black man. She flat out has told both of us she doesn’t like me, doesn’t want a relationship with me, but wants a close relationship with our kids so it can heal her cause she didn’t want or have custody of her two children after she got divorced (they were 9 and 11). She barely saw them until they were adults. My husband was completely being used by her until he met me and we set boundaries. He literally would do everything for her, she even had his credit card. It was so unhealthy. We have tried to make effort and talk about our issues (she has hurt us in so many ways) but every time we bring an issue up, she just cuts us off and says she’s so over that, we’re not a priority in her life, and she doesn’t like me. We told her explicitly if she isn’t willing to have a relationship with me or talk about our issues, we need space and she won’t be seeing us or the kids. She knew this. Well our son’s 2nd birthday party was last weekend and I posted pictures (not sure how she saw because we aren’t friends, but I’m assuming a family member showed her). We didn’t invite her side of the family because they have all disrespected us at one point or another and even posting stuff about me on Facebook.
My husband is still friends with her on fb, and she posted the first pic attached the night of his party. We didn’t say anything. Later that night, my husbands little sister (14) texted him saying she’s so incredibly hurt that we are depriving her from her nephew and has been crying all night. This was strange to us because the times she has seen our son, she doesn’t barely interact with him and sits on the couch on her phone. They don’t have a close relationship or something, but she stated on the text she had been crying all night about it and that it hurt the whole family. My husband responded sweetly and said he was sorry she was caught in the middle and that until mom can respect and talk to us, we are taking space.
The next morning is when my husband received these texts in a group chat with his dad (weird because they have been divorced 15 years now).
I’m just so exhausted. Please tell me other people can see how insane she is
Green: my name
White: my husband
Pink: husbands siblings
Yellow: husbands dad