The mind is just a device for processing and expression…
It's just assistant , who help you to live and understand with it
not a divine entity meant for control or dominate
We are only humans , not gods
Don't try to work on things beyond your limits and means
Love you 🌹
I think one of the things that helps with speaking is talking in the style and mouth movements of the area you’re from.
That video made me realize it :
https://youtu.be/bkuCzIKRg-A?si=ZWdwSYJic3KZnbkG
The area I’m from… especially the the deliquents , they’re known for the way they talk — with a relaxed jaw and the mouth slightly open, almost like speaking through belly breathing...
I tried doing that and… for the first time, I felt like I truly belonged to my own people hahaha. All this time, it was like I was trying to speak with some special way of accent that I had nobody to share with, so it only turned into stuttering. But now it decreased a lot, to the point where I barely even think about it anymore. It even gave me confidence in speaking, personality, and respect!
I think I’m the type of person for whom keeping the mouth too closed while speaking just doesn’t work. Because there are people who keep their mouths more closed and still speak normally.
I also noticed that polite and shy people tend to close their mouths too much, especially when nervous, and I think that’s what creates speech blocks.
So when I learned how to combine that speaking style with changing my mindset — being decisive, removing hesitation and fear — honestly, I feel like a new person now, thank God.
When some people feel suicidal about your post where you express that you finally accept your stuttering and will not feel ashamed of it ... Naaah ... This is my last post here
like we all struggle we all have same or more problems , and when someone with same situation blame his suicidal thinking at you cause you accepted what he didn't accepted ... That's so sad from my people
I used to think that any real change required a massive effort — spending an entire day working on it or planing it ( i called it philosophizing about it ), waiting for the “right time” like tomorrow, my birthday, or some perfect beginning… or that it required rigid discipline and painful commitment.
But the more I live life, the more new realizations open up to me, especially through the idea of energy.
I realized that energy in life is always transforming. You cannot gain everything without losing something. To gain something, you must give up something else — and if you lose something, it means you gained something in return. Energy is always moving and changing form.
I also noticed that life moves in waves and vibrations. For example, if you train intensely, you become intensely exhausted afterward, and then it becomes difficult to return with the same strength. Or if you put huge effort into work, you burn out afterward. Part of this happens because we are not used to sustaining that level of intensity, so our rise becomes sudden and our fall becomes equally sudden and shocking — especially after believing things were finally improving.
And another reason is that we are always chasing the result, the ideal perfect state, without realizing that such a state is only built moment by moment. If we want that state to continue, then we must continuously rebuild it. If our first start was powerful, it is often because we were fully rested beforehand and motivated to improve our lives. But it is unrealistic to expect ourselves to launch every single day with the same intensity as day one. It requires a different kind of motivation each time, and not necessarily the same kind of discipline.
What we truly need is to chill with what we do. We should not make what we do feel heavy, exhausting, or painful, but rather light, comfortable, and maybe even enjoyable — so that we naturally return to it without forcing ourselves.
When you exercise gently and comfortably, you can still function well during the rest of the day. That is far better than training so intensely that you spend the rest of the day collapsed on your bed and struggle to wake up the next morning.
I noticed that whenever I push myself too hard — becoming extremely productive or trying to be at my absolute best — I crash the next day, lose all energy, and sometimes even get sick. That is when I understood that life moves like waves or frequencies.
This made me realize that I am the kind of person who needs to rise gradually, so that I also fall gradually, then rise again gradually hhhhh And here lies the core problem:
Greed. Obsession. Impulsiveness. The desire for instant results.
When we were younger — or even now — we often imagined ourselves building an amazing project, a robot, or something huge,or ourselves as if we could completely making within months or a single year. But we forget that such things require effort, knowledge, collaboration, and time .. and the most important things is lot of mistakes to learn from . Most projects die at the beginning because of overwhelming enthusiasm and impulsive starts. Every great project in life was built through years of effort, collaboration, scientific discoveries, technological progress, and the work of countless people. Along the way, many problems appeared, many employees were fired, many others were hired, and many sacrifices were made — yet progress continued through persistence.
Everything in life is built little by little.
Mountains themselves are formed from the accumulation and compression of tiny stones over many years until they become stable. Or like memorizing three verses of the Quran every day — after a year, you realize how much progress you have made. But if one day you suddenly force yourself to memorize two full pages, you burn out afterward because you overloaded yourself.
And this reveals our humanity and weakness as human beings.
That is why I believe Ikigai is a real thing.
As a human, I do not need the effort of five people, nor the effort of an entire week compressed into one day. What we truly need are small, comfortable, flexible steps that we repeat consistently — and through that consistency, we eventually reach our goals without sickness, pressure, or burnout.
Thats why i see the biggest fraud in life is greed: the desire for instant ownership and immediate transformation.
everything in life is built gradually. And anything built gradually is difficult to destroy instantly. The same applies to bad habits — they were built over a long period of time, which is why they are difficult to stop suddenly. Their solution is gradual change, not violent immediate cutting.
The same goes for neural flexibility and mental rewiring.
Life requires the continuity of small steps. And every meaningful project requires the accumulation and persistence of small steps.
Even your mental state will not be rebuilt overnight or by yourself alone. It is built through small, comfortable, daily steps — with support from others: a doctor, a friend, a teacher, a coworker, a coach, a motivating song, or even a simple inspiring post you read online. Over time, these things slowly help you reach your goal.
You need small, flexible, comfortable steps that guarantee continuity. Because every sudden intense step usually leads to an equally intense setback. That strong sudden step was often preceded by a long period of rest, which is why it shocks the system.
A sudden intense effort is like a skinny person who has never trained before suddenly doing fifty push-ups on the first day. Of course he will break down afterward, maybe even end up in the hospital. But if he started slowly, he would gradually build a strong state that would eventually allow him to do a hundred naturally.
Life works the same way. If your life has been filled with laziness and negativity, then one day of extreme positivity will likely be followed by collapse. What you need instead are small positive actions that comfortably build upon each other until positivity becomes your default state rather than something forced.
And perhaps the most important skill you can learn is flexibility — flexibility of thought, adaptation, and making choices in the present moment so you can preserve your energy for what truly matters now.
Overthinking, carrying the sadness of the past, and worrying about the future divide your energy and leave too little for the present moment — the place where your real life actually exists.
And you know that what you are doing is truly a “small flexible step” when your mind feels calm while doing it, rather than overwhelmed by chaotic thinking that makes you rush, overload yourself, or quit quickly.
That is why it is better to do your current task with a peaceful mind. One of the things that helps the most is calm, conscious breathing.
There is also an Islamic saying: “Deliberation is from God, and haste is from the Devil.” As a Muslim, I believe that God is the source of goodness. So if patience and calmness are from Him, then approaching life with steadiness contains goodness within it. Speed is only useful when needed — it should be a tool, not a permanent lifestyle.
And since we believe evil can come through the influence of Shaytan — not as its ultimate source, but as one of its causes — then living in constant haste becomes harmful, especially when we slow down during moments where speed is actually needed. It should be the opposite: we move quickly only when necessary.
Even this post was not written in one shot. At first, thinking about writing it made me uncomfortable cause i like to understand and apply it smoothly in my life, but I breathed deeply and decided to simply focus on writing freely for myself rather than trying to create a perfect post. After finishing, I reread it, edited it, then decided to post it on Reddit and asked ChatGPT to translate it without changing its meaning or essence.
What I wrote is still imperfect… but I refuse to overload myself beyond my capacity. Otherwise, if I waited for perfection, I would never write anything and would never benefit either myself or others in any way.
Instead, what I wrote becomes experience — something that may helps me become a better writer in the future simply because I chose to share it instead of deleting it.
It is like a skill in a video game that levels up naturally through repeatedly completing small tasks over time until it eventually reaches its maximum level near the end of the game — not instantly.
I used to think that any real change required a massive effort — spending an entire day working on it or planing it ( i called it philosophizing about it ), waiting for the “right time” like tomorrow, my birthday, or some perfect beginning… or that it required rigid discipline and painful commitment.
But the more I live life, the more new realizations open up to me, especially through the idea of energy.
I realized that energy in life is always transforming. You cannot gain everything without losing something. To gain something, you must give up something else — and if you lose something, it means you gained something in return. Energy is always moving and changing form.
I also noticed that life moves in waves and vibrations. For example, if you train intensely, you become intensely exhausted afterward, and then it becomes difficult to return with the same strength. Or if you put huge effort into work, you burn out afterward. Part of this happens because we are not used to sustaining that level of intensity, so our rise becomes sudden and our fall becomes equally sudden and shocking — especially after believing things were finally improving.
And another reason is that we are always chasing the result, the ideal perfect state, without realizing that such a state is only built moment by moment. If we want that state to continue, then we must continuously rebuild it. If our first start was powerful, it is often because we were fully rested beforehand and motivated to improve our lives. But it is unrealistic to expect ourselves to launch every single day with the same intensity as day one. It requires a different kind of motivation each time, and not necessarily the same kind of discipline.
What we truly need is to chill with what we do. We should not make what we do feel heavy, exhausting, or painful, but rather light, comfortable, and maybe even enjoyable — so that we naturally return to it without forcing ourselves.
When you exercise gently and comfortably, you can still function well during the rest of the day. That is far better than training so intensely that you spend the rest of the day collapsed on your bed and struggle to wake up the next morning.
I noticed that whenever I push myself too hard — becoming extremely productive or trying to be at my absolute best — I crash the next day, lose all energy, and sometimes even get sick. That is when I understood that life moves like waves or frequencies.
This made me realize that I am the kind of person who needs to rise gradually, so that I also fall gradually, then rise again gradually hhhhh And here lies the core problem:
Greed. Obsession. Impulsiveness. The desire for instant results.
When we were younger — or even now — we often imagined ourselves building an amazing project, a robot, or something huge,or ourselves as if we could completely making within months or a single year. But we forget that such things require effort, knowledge, collaboration, and time .. and the most important things is lot of mistakes to learn from . Most projects die at the beginning because of overwhelming enthusiasm and impulsive starts. Every great project in life was built through years of effort, collaboration, scientific discoveries, technological progress, and the work of countless people. Along the way, many problems appeared, many employees were fired, many others were hired, and many sacrifices were made — yet progress continued through persistence.
Everything in life is built little by little.
Mountains themselves are formed from the accumulation and compression of tiny stones over many years until they become stable. Or like memorizing three verses of the Quran every day — after a year, you realize how much progress you have made. But if one day you suddenly force yourself to memorize two full pages, you burn out afterward because you overloaded yourself.
And this reveals our humanity and weakness as human beings.
That is why I believe Ikigai is a real thing.
As a human, I do not need the effort of five people, nor the effort of an entire week compressed into one day. What we truly need are small, comfortable, flexible steps that we repeat consistently — and through that consistency, we eventually reach our goals without sickness, pressure, or burnout.
Thats why i see the biggest fraud in life is greed: the desire for instant ownership and immediate transformation.
everything in life is built gradually. And anything built gradually is difficult to destroy instantly. The same applies to bad habits — they were built over a long period of time, which is why they are difficult to stop suddenly. Their solution is gradual change, not violent immediate cutting.
The same goes for neural flexibility and mental rewiring.
Life requires the continuity of small steps. And every meaningful project requires the accumulation and persistence of small steps.
Even your mental state will not be rebuilt overnight or by yourself alone. It is built through small, comfortable, daily steps — with support from others: a doctor, a friend, a teacher, a coworker, a coach, a motivating song, or even a simple inspiring post you read online. Over time, these things slowly help you reach your goal.
You need small, flexible, comfortable steps that guarantee continuity. Because every sudden intense step usually leads to an equally intense setback. That strong sudden step was often preceded by a long period of rest, which is why it shocks the system.
A sudden intense effort is like a skinny person who has never trained before suddenly doing fifty push-ups on the first day. Of course he will break down afterward, maybe even end up in the hospital. But if he started slowly, he would gradually build a strong state that would eventually allow him to do a hundred naturally.
Life works the same way. If your life has been filled with laziness and negativity, then one day of extreme positivity will likely be followed by collapse. What you need instead are small positive actions that comfortably build upon each other until positivity becomes your default state rather than something forced.
And perhaps the most important skill you can learn is flexibility — flexibility of thought, adaptation, and making choices in the present moment so you can preserve your energy for what truly matters now.
Overthinking, carrying the sadness of the past, and worrying about the future divide your energy and leave too little for the present moment — the place where your real life actually exists.
And you know that what you are doing is truly a “small flexible step” when your mind feels calm while doing it, rather than overwhelmed by chaotic thinking that makes you rush, overload yourself, or quit quickly.
That is why it is better to do your current task with a peaceful mind. One of the things that helps the most is calm, conscious breathing.
There is also an Islamic saying: “Deliberation is from God, and haste is from the Devil.” As a Muslim, I believe that God is the source of goodness. So if patience and calmness are from Him, then approaching life with steadiness contains goodness within it. Speed is only useful when needed — it should be a tool, not a permanent lifestyle.
And since we believe evil can come through the influence of Shaytan — not as its ultimate source, but as one of its causes — then living in constant haste becomes harmful, especially when we slow down during moments where speed is actually needed. It should be the opposite: we move quickly only when necessary.
Even this post was not written in one shot. At first, thinking about writing it made me uncomfortable cause i like to understand and apply it smoothly in my life, but I breathed deeply and decided to simply focus on writing freely for myself rather than trying to create a perfect post. After finishing, I reread it, edited it, then decided to post it on Reddit and asked ChatGPT to translate it without changing its meaning or essence.
What I wrote is still imperfect… but I refuse to overload myself beyond my capacity. Otherwise, if I waited for perfection, I would never write anything and would never benefit either myself or others in any way.
Instead, what I wrote becomes experience — something that may helps me become a better writer in the future simply because I chose to share it instead of deleting it.
It is like a skill in a video game that levels up naturally through repeatedly completing small tasks over time until it eventually reaches its maximum level near the end of the game — not instantly.
Everything in life is a skill. Being negative is a skill, and being positive is also a skill. Confidence is a skill, and overthinking is a skill too. Everything in life is something you practice continuously—it needs effort, energy, rest, patience , knowledge, accepting your mistakes, learning from them, and then moving forward.
The same goes for your speech. I won’t overcomplicate it, but you need to treat life like a game: your brain patterns as like algorithms, your resistance and tolerance as a muscle, and life traits as skills that need practice
Another thing—reading aloud or doing breathing exercises is like practicing shots in football training. It helps, but it won’t have a strong effect unless you support it by actually playing many matches.
That’s why you need to talk to people. And there you learn different ways in how to talk with everyone , like how to talk with strangers , family , coworkers , clients ... Talking to a group of friends is by itself a skill that differs from talking to 1v1 , and it doesn't need special session , but to treat it is a lv1 skill that need lot of practice to get more experience
And the most important thing—really, the most important—is your breathing. You need to learn how to breathe consciously and correctly. Always remind yourself to breathe in a calm, controlled way. Breathing is a powerful tool for maintaining focus, pushing away negative thoughts, and separating unconscious thoughts from your true intentions.
In everything you do—work, sports, playing, watching, even walking—keep your breathing steady and controlled. If you defaulted this you'll not need the stupid breathing exercises
Also, don’t live randomly, and don’t live in a rigid overly controlled way either. Do what benefits you and gives you peace. For example, play in a healthy amount, watch something enjoyable, and balance your time between work and rest. The mind is like an algorithm: if you feed it randomness, it gives you more randomness; if you feed it addiction, it gives you more addiction; and if you feed it what truly benefits you, it will give you more of that.
So take responsibility for what you feed your mind and emotions. Don’t let your impulses control you—be the one who controls them.
And whenever you do something that requires effort or focus, remember to rest and return to your breathing. Breathing regulates your focus, your comfort, your personality, and even the way you speak. It’s like a musical instrument—you can express different “melodies” through it. In the same way, your breathing shapes your personality: a confident person breathes differently from an angry one, a serious one, a relaxed one, or a cheerful one.
That’s all I have to share, my brothers. life is like game it will gives you lot of lessons so keep living so you discover and learn more and apply what's best .. trust in god and you're not gonna be disappointed if you dont stop believing
Is not ai shlop , is just im bad at English i tell chatgpt to translate it as i writed in my language but told him to not change the content or meaning
I started to see Niko as the consciousness (we the observers and deciders ) , and the entity as the unconscious — where the entity is the mind or the nervous system. But when it acts on its own, or binds itself to rules and contradicts them (like obsessions), this is what creates disturbances (squares, decaying), and negative thoughts (threatening the player, ordering him to retreat from the mission and break the light bulb).
The entity problem was simply never found someone to tell it that everything is okay, and that it doesn’t have to stick to its rules, but rather go beyond them by creating a better system in a way that produces the optimal balance for the world. Before niko confronted him , it was negative and destructive because it blamed itself for its mistake and for feeling that it had lost control over managing things as it should… and this is what represents our negative and suicidal thoughts, and self-blame , sometimes we see as it doesnt come from ourselves but from our old repetitive patterns that didn't healed , that's why i see ourselves as niko
As you see, the entity is supposed to protect Niko and return him to his world, but its disturbance is what made Niko trapped and in more pain, even harming those he loves.
And that’s how our mind is supposed to protect us and move us forward, but it overprotects in a way that traps us, isolates us from the world, or embarrasses us in social interactions, which hurts us even more — or even harms the hobbies we love because of its excessive protection and disturbance.
But when the player and Niko return (when you regain yourself with help of god every time and challenge your problems , and take paths it doesn’t expect (solstice route ) ), and even face it — but with love, openness, and ease (when niko confronted entity at the end ) …
To speak with yourself and comfort it, telling it that everything is okay, and that your nervous system doesn’t need to contract, fear, or be anxious, but rather to trust, have faith, and be patient with it until that happens, as you strive to prove that to it…
If you felt compassion for the entity and loved it, then I think it is even more necessary to feel compassion for your mind or your nervous system, to love it, and to be gentler with it.
In a previous post, I wrote how much I wished I could meet the entity, talk to it, and tell it that everything is okay and that it doesn’t have to be alone… here I realized that my mind is what represents that.
So… it was never about you versus the world, or you versus yourself. Rather, it is about you being for yourself — becoming the one who leads your mind to follow you and trust you.
But self-criticism and despair from yourself won’t solve anything; instead, it makes your entity more disturbed and more self-blaming as well, because it is merely affected by you, nothing more.
So be strong and gentle with yourself. Love yourself. Love your entity.
When you execute, apply what you want or what you understand immediately without:
too much philosophy
studying it and making scenarios about it
postponing it until tomorrow or until you are ready
thinking about plans, or solid plans, and many possibilities, and digging too much into pros and cons
thinking about how to post it as a Reddit post or as a video, or imagining yourself explaining it to someone else
___ Here your brain will start working for your benefit!
Tell me, what is the main thing that makes us suffer? Is it people? Well, we cannot control them. Is it luck? Well, life by nature has ups and downs.
Does OCD work for your benefit? ADHD? Social anxiety? High sensitivity?
They all work for thoughts! For mental images, for old repetitive patterns, for perfect ideas, perfect plans, and usual hobbies.
Sometimes you feel like your brain loves that thing and not you, but why?
Why does your brain work against you? Why does it love things you do not care about, or that are not good for you, or that you no longer like? Why can’t you control your brain instead of it controlling you?
The reason is that we do not use it for ourselves, but we use it for thoughts, desires, plans, concepts, people, and our hobbies.
This is how OCD is formed, this is what ADHD thrives on, this is why we have social anxiety, and this is why we become addicted to what we love until we ruin it.
Because we are smart in everything except to ourselves, so our brain thinks that we like deceiving ourselves. That is why we always seek distraction and obsession and doing/watching some bs instead of what's suitable for now
Why? Because our brain for many years watched us worship people, things, ideas, perfectionism, and images. Instead of using it for ourselves.
The whole matter is about resilience, and this is what makes you successful: to be resilient with your thoughts, your plans, your speech, your mood, what you need to do, and what you refuse to do.
But we keep loving to philosophize about everything without executing.
Thoughts were created to be executed, and if they are not executed, they are not worth a penny of attention. And if not... you will start feeling them like a heavy rock behind your head. That is how you enter freeze/shutdown/fight or flight mode, whatever its name is, because you do nothing! Only thinking without applying.
Like a prey falling into a trap, and all its thoughts are panicking about what will happen to it, instead of thinking of a smart solution for itself and executing it.
An example from myself: I love healthy eating, but my mother made a delicious pastry that is not good for my health.
If I used my brain for myself, I would know that I need to reduce unhealthy food and make healthy food more enjoyable, like mixing yogurt with banana, strawberry, and almonds. But instead of that, my brain keeps craving the pastry.
I ate it, but it was not worth it! Yes, it was good, but not that delicious and not beneficial for me. It only takes space in my stomach. When I ate yogurt and banana after that, here I felt satisfaction, because I ate what I wanted, and before that I ate what my brain wanted, it's sometimes create illusion that you who want it , and i appreciated that as lesson
So the best thing to apply resilience is now.
For example, if I was walking back from work, instead of rushing and buying sweets, I had an addiction problem with sugar, to the point I bought them on the road and ate them quickly without enjoyment + Rushing in walking causes me stress, because my brain wants to reach home fast.
Here instead of that... I slow down the walking... and enjoy the road, the views, look at things that may benefit me. I change my idea about sweets, so I walk by the coffeshops and realize that the best way to eat them is to sit there, or take them home. Otherwise, I will not eat them. On top of that, they are unhealthy, I already had enough of them all my life , and they waste money. I prefer buying something healthy like fruits, and this way I change my path toward the fruit shop and add nuts with it. All that happened immediately
_ Meaning: the suitable action for the suitable awareness.
_ And if someone talks to me, I talk with a social personality, not the same personality you have at home or at work or with your friends.
Know that every situation has the best way to behave in it.
Here we use our brains for our benefit, and we execute immediately. This is how you feed it toward better things, not only by writing or thinking. You can do that optionally, but the most important thing is application. Thats how life be more enjoyable and stable more than video games
Look at video games, when we truly use our brain for them, we learn by consistent trying and immediate execution without hesitation, and with time you become skilled, not by overthinking (except in strategy games), and life is not a strategy game... it is life!
In video games you learn what right items and right weapons and accessories and enjoy discovering new things , but why in life we live random and keep with same bad habits/items/food ?
In games we do not hesitate in shooting, summoning the best card, or scoring the goal Because it is for our benefit: to win, to become better, to enjoy, to feel proud. To make progress
That is why we enjoyed games more than our life, because we used our brain in them immediately and with determination for our own benefit! No one plays to lose. , and however we lose we learn and keep trying
So any urge that cannot be controlled is your brain working for the thought / people / emotions, because all your life it saw you satisfying them instead of satisfying yourself. And satisfying yourself means satisfying what is truly better for you, not what you think is better while it is fake and disguised by your old brain desire.
So simply, start acting with resilience. The whole matter is about now, in doing what is best now, not what is best for the thought or for people or how you were in the past. You want to become better, right? Not how you used to be...
Thinking about the future feeds thoughts, and the past is also related to thoughts, and daydreaming as well. Think about what is best for you and do it.
For example: instead of walking fast, walk confidently and enjoy walking. Talk with people, engage with them, and enjoy the conversation. Build your social personality. Discover and train your different sides: be funny with your friends, angry when needed, serious in work, or a problem solver. Encourage yourself to do side tasks in fixing, arranging, cleaning, and learning new things, without making it pressure on yourself but for now ! Not for tomorrow or future
Do not feed urges, and do not feed thoughts. Feed what is best for you, and what is best for you is what can be executed now.
This is how you begin to become resilient, and discover and improve your different sides at the right time.
This is what being human means. We are not robots to follow strict programs and routines...
And believe me, thoughts always keep changing, and philosophy (overthinking) wastes your time and gives you headaches. Use your brain for yourself, not for thoughts, and live in the present with what is best for you now. This is how you become resilient, and this is how you become a living human being.
im stutterer by myself from my childhood , i get throug lot of traumas , and get exhausted a lot with life , and im just one of u guys who was thinking that if i was fluent ill be so unstoppable as if im god or something ... Then i watched video names "make something " from sinikik .. and then alot of videos who give lessons from video games , it does inspired me in realisation about what i truly loved , but not acting in gratitude to it ... Like i love shows , games , my daydreams.. in concept of working hard , showing out , facing the hardships ,or just enjoying life .. but like why i refuse when im the one who need to face hardships , and enjoying life ... That's made my severe stuttering like nothing like stuttering is not life , is a part of it that i see is pushing me forward for good if i face it , as if isolation gonna fix it and i suffer from it for years without miracle change , bro i even dont considered my stuttering is a problem anymore like i feel so much motivated , so that's why i write this and then i wanted to share it , im just like one of u guys who keep wandering to this community to maybe ill found that chosen post that have the cure ... But now i understand it's all about the right mindset with whatever you got disability or not , breathing exercises is just complements not the necessary ,so keep preaching about positivity rather than negativity guys !
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I appreciate every good thing I’ve lived through, played, watched, seen, tried, heard, read, shared with others, and shared myself… even the things I ate.
I realized what my duty of appreciation is. It is simple at its core
My duty of appreciation is not to give in to disturbance, and to remain, or return to being, a human being.
Trying to fix the past is disturbance.
Trying to keep digging into every old memory is disturbance.
Blaming yourself is disturbance.
Blaming others without reason or harm from them is disturbance.
Blaming God, or the nature of life, is the worst disturbance.
Trying to be perfect is disturbance.
Patching things desperately is disturbance.
Listening to and following obsessive, negative, destructive thoughts is disturbance.
And the greatest disturbance is despair and losing hope, because it leads either to awakening… or to numbness.
Disturbance is narcissistic
But harmony with your humanity is the best healing cure for worries and intrusive thoughts, as if they never existed.
As if your life had always been sweet.
Especially when you realize that loss and setbacks are part of life, but the real matter is in our reaction: whether we become disturbed or remain in harmony.
How does disturbance appear, and what does harmony look like?
Harmony is simply this:
To forgive yourself naturally, and feel that nothing is missing and nothing is upsetting you, but to be content with all that has passed.
To appreciate everything you experienced without favoritism.
To be aware of your humanity, with all its weakness , because through that comes growth, awareness, and understanding.
To continue living, learning, working, trying, discovering, creating, improving, and adapting to change.
To realize that you own nothing, but you are someone who experiences life and creates experiences for others.
To realize that you owe no one anything, and that the good people do for each other is appreciation, not debt.
And that beauty is created by effort, not by wishing for it.
What I loved in anime, games, music, imagination, and ideas came because people worked together, worked hard, and gave effort. They inspired me to build better dreams.
Even my own imagination reflects that what we hope for is reached through persistence, not despair or wishing.
Even the safety and blessings I live in now came through the persistence of others. Even if they failed in understanding me or being close to me, God made up for it in different ways, through language and forms I understand, like videos I watched, philosophies I explored, imagination, and games I experienced. And each time I get inspired, and each time things become clearer.
Then you understand that what is lacking is always replaced. You do not lose something except that you gain something else in return.
This is harmonious living: to value your existence, accept your humanity, accept the nature of life with its mix of beauty and disturbance, not to weaken before negativity, and to strive for positives, improving , not perfection, and to give as others give to you.
As for disturbance, it is like this:
When you keep blaming yourself
When you blame what was destined or beyond your control.
When you blame life itself for it's nature
When you try to control everything and be perfect.
Reacting negatively to critics , rejection ( that's part of life and people , even you do )
The intense desire for possession, total control, absolute freedom, total achievement, as if you want to challenge your humanity and the nature of life.
Despair, wishing to return to the past and fix it, or move to another world, or greed for an uncertain future, rejecting your present existence and the fate you lived through.
When you surrender to obsessions, anxiety, negative thoughts, fear, and weaken before failure, hesitation, disabilities, memories, and endless possibilities.
When you live only as a receiver but wish to be only a sender, or only a receiver completely.
Disturbance is to live in extremes and illusion.
but .... it's it’s not about never feeling disturbed, just catching it faster and coming back to baseline without spiraling.
_ so please , accept yourself ,and understand that past will be appreciated if you appreciate your present , the same with future
_ keep living , and keep inspiring and being inspired