I have a small mole that's been there for years, but recently I started looking at it closer and getting worried about the shape. I think it's always been this way but I'm not entirely sure. It's roughly 3 - 4mm at the longest point. I have an appointment with a dermatologist next week but does this look concerning due to the shape? No symptoms or anything else weird about it aside from that.
For nearly two months now I've had a small persistent blue (what I assume) hemorrhoid. It'll be hard to see when things are calm down there, but after a bowel movement a puffy blue lump is present. There will be general swelling in the area and after several hours it goes down.
Initially I had a ton of itching and a very small amount of blood after each BM. Now it no longer itches and doesn't bleed every time, but if I try to do any movement at all while it's irritated it'll bleed. I've done all the things my doctor told me - more water, more fiber, stool softeners, Vaseline, and hemorrhoid pillows. I'm so frustrated that I can't even walk my dog, do basic things at the gym, or even walk up steps without irritating it.
I'm going to call my doctor first thing tomorrow and insist she look at it again....but has anyone else had this? It's starting to genuinely make me depressed and I'm so frustrated I can't make any progress. It's putting everything I love on hold. :(
EDIT: For some more clarity it's not the frequency of the hang outs, it's the duration. We will always hang out if she asks and vice versa unless we are genuinely booked.
I've been part of a fantastic long running friend group for around 15 years. We all get along really well and have a blast every time we are together and really enjoying catching up. We live within a half days drive of each other and used to have frequent visits, but they've gotten further in between. We went from spending 3+ nights when we get together down to just one night or a day trip. I'm perfectly fine with this - we are all much busier now and taking a whole weekend off just isn't feasible most of the time.
There's one friend in the group though that still wants to spend 3+ nights together. My other friends in the group are pretty firm about wanting to just spend one night, but prefer just a day activity. I feel the same way but I'm a little more lenient and I'm willing to get together for a couple of nights max - I like to have a few hours Sunday night to decompress, clean my house up from the stay, and get ready for work. If it's a holiday weekend I love hanging out but I want that extra day off for me to have time to myself (I'm an introvert if you can't tell haha).
My issue is how do you handle this? Every time I explain I want a few hours or that holiday to myself so I'll only have them over for two nights the friend feels a little hurt. I'm not tired of her or want her gone, but I don't want to immediately shower after they leave, go to bed, and wake up to go to work. They don't like being by themselves and they hate having downtime - it's restorative for me but depressing for them. I just don't want them to feel bad. My other friends will send out invites and have cut off times (everyone out at 11am), but the friend will hang around and keep talking and be oblivious to the "it's time to leave" hints from the hosts. Our group ages range from 35 - 43 if it matters.