u/Aromatic-Complex-275

My girlfriend (27f) accused me (28m) of starting an argument when I expected to get a say in decorating the home

My girlfriend and I have moved into a new apartment and she has started decorating it. She's put some framed prints, some plants, a few vases, some figurines and other little bits around the shared spaces. Our previous apartment was fully furnished and pretty small so you couldn’t really decorate whereas this one has a lot more space.

I found a few framed movie and comic prints I liked and some figurines that looked good so I bought them and went to put them on some new shelves that we've just put up. My girlfriend asked what I was doing and I mentioned I'd found some things I wanted to use for decoration.

She suggested I put them in the home office but I said I'd prefer them in a communal space so I don't just get to see them when I'm working. She said she doesn't think I should be putting them out and that I should stick to putting them in my office.

I told her the shared space should reflect both of our interests not just hers and that it's not just up to her to decide what decoration is allowed in the apartment. She said I was starting arguments over nothing and that I should be fine keeping them in the office.

Does anyone have any advice on how best to approach this or have any other views on it?

tl;dr my girlfriend said I was starting an argument over nothing when I said I wanted a say in decorating the home.

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u/Aromatic-Complex-275 — 13 hours ago

AITA for expecting shared spaces to lap reflect my interests?

My girlfriend and I have moved into a new apartment and she has started decorating it. She's put some framed prints, some plants, a few vases, some figurines and other little bits around the shared spaces. Our previous apartment was fully furnished and pretty small so you couldn’t really decorate whereas this one has a lot more space.

I found a few framed movie and comic prints I liked and some figurines that looked good so I bought them and went to put them on some new shelves that we've just put up. My girlfriend asked what I was doing and I mentioned I'd found some things I wanted to use for decoration.

She suggested I put them in the home office but I said I'd prefer them in a communal space so I don't just get to see them when I'm working. She said she doesn't think I should be putting them out and that I should stick to putting them in my office.

I told her the shared space should reflect both of our interests not just hers and that it's not just up to her to decide what decoration is allowed in the apartment. She said I was starting arguments over nothing and that I should be fine keeping them in the office.

AITAH for expecting the shared space to reflect both of our interests?

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u/Aromatic-Complex-275 — 14 hours ago