My childs birthday is coming up and both set of grandparents gave her really expensive gifts. I am okay with it and let them spoil her once in a while. My husband's mother got her the gift by taking her to the shop herself and my child ended up selecting two things and she got her one thing. This was one of the gift from her as she had also brought another gift when she travelled to meet us here. So everything is well. When they reached home, my child asked where is the other gift she selected and started throwing a very tiny tantrum, but mother in law ended up throwing even a bigger one saying she should have gotten her both and it was me who always says not to get her anything ( context: I don't let them spoil her too much by getting her everything and anything ). I started telling her how we should show love to our kids by disciplining them and sometimes by saying no. She was going on and on about how she want to go to the store tomorrow and get the other one also for her. I told her, very calmly( only reason I am calm is coz she is my mother in law) that we shouldn't give into such tantrums and my child is already kind of spoiled because of being the only kid in the family. As I am trying to explain this to her, she starts cutting me off by suddenly changing the subject and talking about what happened at the mall today and what all she did and no matter how many times I tried to bring it up, she blatantly ignored it. Now I feel a bit disrespected that she ignored me like this. It's not the first time as well! Everytime something goes against her, she changes the subject and refuses to listen to what the other person has to say.
My child understood what I was saying after me talking to her for a minute, but it was harder to make the MIL understand. She didn't listen to anything I said after that and told me she will buy that gift the next time she is here and went out. I gave up and didn't say anything.
In my culture, talking back to MIL is not something that's done. So I have a lot of patience when it comes to her. I think in my 9 years of marriage, I have snapped at her like one time. Now I am sitting here in my bed feeling like I might have denied her her right to spoil her grandkid or did I overrreact or was in the wrong and is that why she ignored me.
I really need to know. I know this post is all over the place. English is my second language and I find it difficult to pen down my feelings. Hopefully you all get it.