u/Appropriate-Care-355

Looking for a friend?

I’m from Canada. I got no friends so hoping if I could make a friend.

Reason I don’t have friends. Well the story goes I had a friend since grade 9. Had a girlfriend it’s just a usual scenario. But main thing is I broke up with her when I was in college as she cheated on me.

Now some people have ego and short girls have more ego not going to say every girl but most likely that’s the case. She fixed her best friend with my best friend. He didn’t knew who she was but in love usually everyone goes blind so he didn’t tell me either. So she took him too. So I have a trust issues.

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In the name of so called sadhana who give and who take advice.

I'm not as learned as the people here, but I just wanted to point out what's been happening. Now, some people give advice, and those who take the advice. Now, genuinely, I am not against it.

But some people haven't heard of tantra jumping into ma chinamista, ma pryantingra or a very ferocious deity. And why are they jumping into it? I feel loved, I feel like crying, and I feel like this or like that. First of all, the sadhana or even nitya pooja of a deity is a tapasya. The more ferocious a deity, the more you burn to purify such a diluted soul.

On the other hand, we got so-called gurus, the shastras gyanis, acting like fear mongers or orthodox towards a genuine question being asked, even laughing at it. Guidance is not laughing or instilling fear into someone new. Then, just become a bully at that point. Now I am not going to blame someone. Recently, a sadhak posted that he did a mantra jaap of a ferocious deity, and in his dream, someone was shouting for him to return the mantra. Now, most likely you will see people who will help a sadhak; obviously, what he did was wrong, but some were laughing at it, saying, “Go to your ai guru.” Anything could’ve happened to him; show some concern, guide him. Not make him a laughing stock.

Now, some people push guru diksha. Let me tell you a story, Ravan, the greatest devotee of lord shiva. During the Ramayan, Ravan committed a supreme sin known throughout the yugas, even in Kalyug, by disguising himself as a saint to deceive Ma Sita and abduct her. Betrayal of sainthood and guru worship. The abuse of trust was so high that Shiv Ji couldn’t even forgive his beloved devotee. Due to Ravan's actions, particularly his betrayal of traditional spiritual roles, a profound crisis of faith emerged regarding the authenticity of spiritual leaders, or gurus. Now I want you guys to imagine the impact of a fake guru in this day and age, where the sins of humans are at their all-time high. Taking diksha from that guru is sharing the karma of the most sinful act.

Although I am not against guru diksha, But it often feels forced, driven by fear or even consequences. Nowadays, everything is so fast-tracked that people don’t have patience. It’s written in the Bhagavad Gita: “ The chain of Impatience(2.63) leads to anger, which clouds judgement and destroys intellect.” You already know what it leads to, the so-called guru online or in person. I am sure you will never find a guru when you have a doubt, but that doubt is genuine, as Ravan just showed that.

Coming to the point, if someone doesn’t even start something or even doesn’t make any spiritual connection, how would a deity lead their devotee to a guru? It’s simple. If Prabhu wants Sadhak to continue, he will send people to help him, and one of you could be doing God's work instead of laughing and instilling fear. I respect all who give genuine advice. You are right: the guru won't be served on a platter, but Prabhu will send people to guide him to the guru.

Spirituality is not a race, nor is it a place for ego. Advanced sadhanas are not meant for emotional excitement alone, and sincere seekers should not be mocked for their mistakes either.

A beginner needs guidance, patience, and honesty — not fear, humiliation, or superiority. Not everyone who asks questions is foolish, and not everyone who claims authority is worthy of trust.

If someone is truly meant to walk a path, Prabhu will guide them step by step, through experience, wisdom, and the right people at the right time. Until then, the least we can do is help each other with compassion instead of pride.

Because a real spiritual path should reduce ego — not increase it.

u/Appropriate-Care-355 — 2 days ago

Batuk bhairav kavach

I’m have been trying to understand this. Some say you shouldn’t chant it as you have not initiated. Would the kavach work without doing it? Can you please help me with this? Because when you recite the kavach, the mantra comes along with it.

u/Appropriate-Care-355 — 3 days ago

Is it durga maa or chamunda maa?

I recently came by a website where they were comparing ma Durga mantra and ma chamunda mantra. Is it true that ma Durga came later in the century as in the ancient times it was ma chamunda. I am confused. Can someone please explain? It’s even said that her vahana was shav(dead body)

u/Appropriate-Care-355 — 7 days ago

So I have been researching about Hanuman ji panchmukhi. I would like to know what is veer ras and the special yantra that is used in Hanuman ji sadhana.

u/Appropriate-Care-355 — 8 days ago

What is the sadhana like step by step from lighting up the diya to finishing the sadhana and is it ok to just say batuk bhairavaya namah as you need an initiation for aum batuk bhairavaya namah.

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u/Appropriate-Care-355 — 10 days ago
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Whatever I am going to say if its right or not I dont know but people have problem with aum batuk bhairavaya namah beacause of the aum and its required initiation from guru like the aum namah shivaya right. I dont know if I am right but a mantra is a depiction of the lord whether its hanuman ji or shiv ji or any other deity. I heard Premanand maharaj ji said there is nothing stronger than a naam jaap and it does make sense for people who haven't initiated from a guru . Its hard to find a guru in this kalyug everyone is there to scam you or take money especially people living abroad and even in India. So if people have problem with a mantra just short the mantra to "BATUK BHAIRAVAYA NAMAH" its basically a pure naam jaap you can meditate to it. If Bhairav baba wants you to continue he will guide you to right guru. Please tell me if im wrong and if you want to add more to it.

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u/Appropriate-Care-355 — 10 days ago
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Namaskar. I have been facing problems for a few days. I am not able to sleep as when I close my eyes I see dark entities, my body heats up, my eyes burn and I get sweaty. I’m not able to sleep at night anymore. I’m really tired because not enough sleep. I didn’t do any sadhana or anything. I have only watched post on Kaal bhairav and Tantra. Please help me if you can I don’t know what’s happening. I feel very scared.

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u/Appropriate-Care-355 — 11 days ago