u/Apart_Researcher_193

About three years ago, I moved to a different city because of my boyfriend. Since then, I’ve often struggled with loneliness and sadness. These feelings usually come once every 2–3 months and last up to a week.

Recently, two new colleagues joined our workplace—about six months ago—and they’ve already managed to make friends here, get close to people, and even go on trips together. Meanwhile, I haven’t been able to find anyone in all that time. I did manage to meet a couple of people and we spent time together for a few months, but I realized that I was the only one putting in effort. Since I stopped reaching out, I haven’t heard from them at all.

As for my colleagues, it took me about a year and a half to somewhat fit in. Now there are a few people I can talk to, but we only interact at work. We don’t text or hang out outside of it.

When it comes to my boyfriend, we don’t have much in common. We spend about 80% of our time doing things separately. The only thing we really do together is travel abroad and watching TV, that’s it.

I do have a friend, but she lives in my hometown, and the only thing she really enjoys is drinking, which doesn’t interest me much anymore. So we just text and meet maybe 3x a year. . A long time ago, I also tried finding a friend online, but those connections usually faded over time.

What should I do? How is it that those girls were able to build connections within just six months of moving here? It’s true that I’m not an extrovert like them. I don’t enjoy typical small talk, but sometimes when I meet someone I really click with iam able to speak endlessly. I thought I can handle this by myself but probably not.

Anyway when I was a kid/teen I didn't have any problem with finding friends. So I have no idea what do I do wrong.

About three years ago, I moved to a different city because of my boyfriend. Since then, I’ve often struggled with loneliness and sadness. These feelings usually come once every 2–3 months and last up to a week.

Recently, two new colleagues joined our workplace—about six months ago—and they’ve already managed to make friends here, get close to people, and even go on trips together. Meanwhile, I haven’t been able to find anyone in all that time. I did manage to meet a couple of people and we spent time together for a few months, but I realized that I was the only one putting in effort. Since I stopped reaching out, I haven’t heard from them at all.

As for my colleagues, it took me about a year and a half to somewhat fit in. Now there are a few people I can talk to, but we only interact at work. We don’t text or hang out outside of it.

When it comes to my boyfriend, we don’t have much in common. We spend about 80% of our time doing things separately. The only thing we really do together is travel abroad and watching TV, that’s it.

I do have a friend, but she lives in my hometown, and the only thing she really enjoys is drinking, which doesn’t interest me much anymore. So we just text and meet maybe 3x a year.

I’ve thought about joining a hiking group, but my boyfriend doesn’t like the idea. When I asked him to join me he refuse, because he's against meeting new people. A long time ago, I also tried finding a friend online, but those connections usually faded over time.

What should I do? How is it that those girls were able to build connections within just six months of moving here? It’s true that I’m not an extrovert and I don’t enjoy typical small talk, but sometimes when I meet someone I really click with iam able to speak endlessly.

Anyway when I was a kid/teen I didn't have any problem with finding friends. I didn't even have a problem with using dating apps... So I have no idea what do I do wrong.

About three years ago, I moved to a different city. Since then, I’ve often struggled with loneliness and sadness. These feelings usually come once every 2–3 months and last up to a week.

Recently, two new colleagues joined our workplace—about six months ago—and they’ve already managed to make friends here, get close to people, and even go on trips together. Meanwhile, I haven’t been able to find anyone in all that time. I did manage to meet a couple of people and we spent time together for a few months, but I realized that I was the only one putting in effort. Since I stopped reaching out, I haven’t heard from them at all.

As for my colleagues, it took me about a year and a half to somewhat fit in. Now there are a few people I can talk to, but we only interact at work. We don’t text or hang out outside of it.

When it comes to my boyfriend, we don’t have much in common. We spend about 80% of our time doing things separately. The only thing we really do together is travel abroad and watching TV, that’s it.

I do have a friend, but she lives in my hometown, and the only thing she really enjoys is drinking, which doesn’t interest me much anymore. So we just text and meet maybe 3x a year.

I’ve thought about joining a hiking group, but my boyfriend doesn’t like the idea. When I asked him to join me he refuse, because he's against meeting new people. A long time ago, I also tried finding a friend online, but those connections usually faded over time.

What should I do? How is it that those girls were able to build connections within just six months of moving here? It’s true that I’m not an extrovert and I don’t enjoy typical small talk, but sometimes when I meet someone I really click with iam able to speak endlessly.

Anyway when I was a kid/teen I didn't have any problem with finding friends... So I have no idea what do I do wrong.