u/Anya_purr

This is a rant about my family.

I'm in my 20s and I have a disability so I still live with my parents, I don't go out much and most of the times when i do so it's with them. Thing is that I have IBS which gives me anxiety to the point of looking agoraphobic.

Whenever i go into a car my anxiety gets worse since there's no bathrooms nearby when going from one place to another, so we've had to stop the car whenever we were about to leave for me to rush to the bathroom (since anxiety trigger ibs and ibs triggers anxiety).

My family is understandably annoyed by this, so i try my hardest to control myself whenever I start getting agitated in the car, one thing I ask my family as a last resort is to tell me that everything's going to be ok, which they never do. They don't understand anxiety and i doubt they even believe it exists, so when I ask them to do that for me they act annoyed and yell at me "Don't start now" "Stop it already" "You're crazy" "You're intentionally doing this" or start swearing at me. Which obviously doesn't help.

As I mentioned I rarely go out with others and I don't want to be actually agoraphobic so I force myself to go out with them, but it's a pain to do so with totally unsupportive people.

My brother gave some scented candles shaped in flowers form to my mom, she put them right next to the kitchen. The thing is they smell too strongly, it takes all of my appetite away, i can smell them even from the living room, it has already caused me so many headaches, even if i stay in my room.

As they're not real flowers so I can't wait them to die quickly, i don't know what to do. Even if i tell my mom to put them in her room it would affect me because it's right next to mine and our house is not that big to put them somewhere I don't go in often, it's definitely too annoying. 😭

I think I've been having this since i was a teen or even younger but it's been getting worse for the last few years (I'm 24), to the point that I really think it through before leaving my house, my family is so done with me, they say that I sound agoraphobic and too dramatic.

I'm pretty sure that my anxiety around it makes me have episodes, like when i'm out and i start overthinking about the car ride home, and suddenly i need to get out of the car at the very last minute, when we're about to leave to find a toilet and even after going to the bathroom my anxiety during the ride home is hell.

All of this to say that my anxiety plays a big role on my (alleged) IBS, but people always recommend against telling a doctor you have anxiety because they will dismiss every symptom to it, so how could I possibly explain my IBS without mentioning it?

Also it'd be great if you could share what tests or examinations the doctors did to diagnose you.

My friend has a horrible theater etiquette for being an actress herself.

She talks loud during the movie and if something shocking happens on it she expresses herself too loudly for my liking, and I might sound like an ahole for that, but she also never puts her phone on silent mode and keeps replying to messages from family or work during the movie. And god, i don't even know how she can stare at her phone having the brightness that high in the darkness of the theater!!

I have no other friends to go watch movies with and overall I usually have a good time with her, but as someone who used to go a lot to the movies as a kid/teen with my family. It just hurts me seeing all this and it's honestly embarrassing to be with that person. I've tried to tell her to be quieter or maybe turn her brightness down but i can tell she gets bothered by it.

Malcom in the middle recently had a revival series, whether you watch the show or not i'd like to know what you would call the youngest sibling based on their siblings' names:

Francis, Reese, Malcom, Dewey and Jamie.

Consider that the character is afab (assigned female at birth) but identifies as non-binary, was born in 2006/2007, and as far as we know they haven't changed their birth name.

Their official name in the show is >!Kelly!<. I don't love it though, it might be the novelty of the character but i feel like it doesn't match with the other names. What do you think?