u/Any_Understanding589

I honestly don’t know if I’m overreacting or if I’ve just finally had enough.

A close friend of mine has always had this habit of making little “jokes” at my expense. Normally I ignore it because I don’t like drama, and whenever I’ve brought it up before they say I’m “too sensitive” or that they’re “just joking.”

Recently I organised a pretty expensive weekend plan for a group of us. I booked most of it myself, sorted transport, deposits, reservations etc because nobody else wanted the responsibility. I spent a lot of time making sure everyone was included and comfortable.

The problem started during dinner the first night. Out of nowhere this friend started making comments about my finances and basically implying I was showing off because I booked nicer places than usual. Everyone laughed awkwardly but I was genuinely embarrassed because I was the one paying deposits upfront for most things.

Then they made another comment saying something like “careful, he’ll probably invoice us with interest later.” Again everyone laughed but it honestly irritated me because I’d already chased people for payments for weeks (most still outstanding as they think I don't "need" it. Stupidly).

I stayed calm and didn’t argue there because I didn’t want to ruin the night.

Later on I pulled them aside privately and said I didn’t appreciate being made into a joke after putting all the effort into organising everything. Instead of apologising they got defensive and said I was acting “weirdly emotional” and that everyone else thought it was funny.

That annoyed me even more because nobody else had helped organise anything.

The next morning I cancelled the remaining plans I had booked under my name and told everyone they were free to continue without me. I still paid the cancellation fees myself because I didn’t want arguments over money.

Now some people are saying I massively overreacted and “killed the vibe” over harmless jokes, while others privately admitted the comments were disrespectful.

I genuinely can’t tell if I handled this badly or if I finally stood up for myself for once knowing they just been shitheads?

AITAH???

I honestly don’t know if I’m overreacting or if I’ve just finally had enough.

A close friend of mine has always had this habit of making little “jokes” at my expense. Normally I ignore it because I don’t like drama, and whenever I’ve brought it up before they say I’m “too sensitive” or that they’re “just joking.”

Recently I organised a pretty expensive weekend plan for a group of us. I booked most of it myself, sorted transport, deposits, reservations etc because nobody else wanted the responsibility. I spent a lot of time making sure everyone was included and comfortable.

The problem started during dinner the first night. Out of nowhere this friend started making comments about my finances and basically implying I was showing off because I booked nicer places than usual. Everyone laughed awkwardly but I was genuinely embarrassed because I was the one paying deposits upfront for most things.

Then they made another comment saying something like “careful, he’ll probably invoice us with interest later.” Again everyone laughed but it honestly irritated me because I’d already chased people for payments for weeks (most still outstanding as they think I don't "need" it. Stupidly).

I stayed calm and didn’t argue there because I didn’t want to ruin the night.

Later on I pulled them aside privately and said I didn’t appreciate being made into a joke after putting all the effort into organising everything. Instead of apologising they got defensive and said I was acting “weirdly emotional” and that everyone else thought it was funny.

That annoyed me even more because nobody else had helped organise anything.

The next morning I cancelled the remaining plans I had booked under my name and told everyone they were free to continue without me. I still paid the cancellation fees myself because I didn’t want arguments over money.

Now some people are saying I massively overreacted and “killed the vibe” over harmless jokes, while others privately admitted the comments were disrespectful.

I genuinely can’t tell if I handled this badly or if I finally stood up for myself for once knowing they just been shitheads?

AIO ???