I’m 50yo male married 25 years. I still love my wife. She’s a very kind and thoughtful person. I’m never going to leave her. My issue is my wife has never been affectionate and has never had any interest in sex. We have sex 10 times a year if im lucky. This is including our 20’s. It’s been very hard on me. As im getting older I feel I missed out on a lot of things. Affection,connection,intimacy and the excitement of sex. When we do have sex she gives no effort. Not to get graphic but we never had doggystyle. She’s never been on top. Oral seems like a chore to her.
I’ve tried everything. Im a decent looking guy. I’ve tried Positive encouragement, i became a bodybuilder with a 34 inch waist. I’ve pursued her for 25 years and I finally gave up. I brought it up dozens of times. I recommend we go to therapy. All of this was returned with “im conservative“ or I’ll try harder. ive asked if she wanted to leave or if shes not attracted to men. Im a nice guy and I dont abuse or insult her. Everything else in our relationship is great. she doesn’t have time to be with anyone else . She’s always home on time and doesn’t really talk to anyone else.
the advice I need is. Am i a creep to want affection from someone else? I will never leave her. I really want intimacy and connection sexually with someone. Im 50 and it’s almost time when sex fades from the body. Would women be understanding with the situation or am my actually a bad person for wanting this?
amarillo tx