u/Any-Let-2861 — reddlx

I lost my FT job last September just before we moved in together. I was working a PT retail job and running my own eBay business at the same time. I managed to get promoted at the retail job and am now a manager. I am making half of what I was making before but am able to cover all the bills. Pretty much everything in our apartment I bought myself.

I am looking for a better job and am still doing my own business. My GF bugs me every once in awhile about why I haven’t even gotten any interview. I try to tell her about the situation in toronto(I am canadian born and she is a recent immigrant who landed a job with virtually no effort-came as an international student-then landed the 2nd job she applied for after I tweaked her resume).

She is fixated on city of Toronto in particular and Ontario/Canada govt jobs. I have transferable skills from being in management/buying in other jobs but have to tweak all my resumes to specifically tailor them towards the role.

Granted I am not focused on the job search every single waking minute because I work 44 hours a week in retail on top of running the eBay business.

She just won’t leave me alone and keeps saying I’m not doing enough or I’m applying wrong. I tell her about the situation and I get yelled at that I should only be listening to success stories not people who are struggling to find work. I am a realist though.

She said tonight we will go through my resume together and apply to a new job on city of Toronto. I really don’t want to do this. I feel like I’m being forced and babied and it’s hurting my self esteem. I want her to stop bugging me and mind her own business. I have already told her to not worry and I can figure it out myself but the fact that I’ve gone months it hasn’t helped.

Looking for advice from people whose family, friends or significant other has done this. How did you navigate it? If I stand up for myself she gets super upset and difficult to be around. She won’t talk to me for several hours and ignores.