u/Anxious_Ad9786

I’m at my breaking point. Im 18, I got this cat because I was already going through a rough time in my life and needed some emotional support.

She is 1-2 months old, and she’s really helped so far, I’ve only had her for about a week but I love her to death. It’s my first time with a pet so I didn’t realize she was showing symptoms or being sick. My friend came over and told me to get her checked up, I went to the vet and it turns out she has herpes, calicivirus, chlymydia and some bacteria. I’m fucking distraught. Is there any hope. I brought back medicine but I don’t know if it’s gonna work. I can’t look at her without crying

Is there anything I can do. I don’t know if she’ll make it. I don’t even know if I should fucking grieve

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u/Anxious_Ad9786 — 8 days ago

First let me just say: I am not looking for a rebound. Maybe that's what I'll end up finding, but I really do not want a casual relationship. I know I can't force a serious relationship, but I just want to have some realistic expectations moving forward.

I am 18 and just got out of my first serious relationship with that lasted almost 3 years. It happened 1.5 weeks ago and was amicable, we both said we still love each other but agreed that it wouldn't work out right now for some personal reasons. It's been very painful, I feel very alone and dejected, this was the same person who once made me feel like I was the most important person in the world and now that's gone and it feels like shit. Regardless, it was obvious we still had feelings for each other so I told her we should go no contact otherwise it would prolong the pain.

I still have so much love to give. I know its dumb and immature, but I just want someone I can imagine a future with, someone to make me feel safe and cared about. The default advice is to learn to feel those things single, but I genuinely just do not want to. I hate falling asleep without a smile on my face, I hate starting my day without a loving text to wake up to. My last relationship which was not nearly as serious was 3 months long, but even then I hurt for 6 months and although I was over it the hurt didn't fully stop until I met my now ex(18F).

I feel like I'm someone who just functions better in a relationship, and as I said I still have so much love to give. I don't want to rush anything, but i am really scared. How long will it be till I meet someone who I like as much as I like her? I dont want to be alone for years. How can any future relationship even make me feel safe? You may scoff because we're so young, but we genuinely wanted to be lifelong partners and up until recently believed it would happen. If a relationship which we once thought was so secure it would last a whole lifetime could fall apart, how can i trust any future relationship?

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u/Anxious_Ad9786 — 14 days ago

First let me just say: I am not looking for a rebound. Maybe that's what I'll end up finding, but I really do not want a casual relationship. I know I can't force a serious relationship, but I just want to have some realistic expectations moving forward.

I am 18 and just got out of my first serious relationship that lasted almost 3 years. It happened 1.5 weeks ago and was amicable, we both said we still love each other but agreed that it wouldn't work out right now for some personal reasons. It's been very painful, I feel very alone and dejected, this was the same person who once made me feel like I was the most important person in the world and now that's gone and it feels like shit. Regardless, it was obvious we still had feelings for each other so I told her we should go no contact otherwise it would prolong the pain.

I still have so much love to give. I know its dumb and immature, but I just want someone I can imagine a future with, someone to make me feel safe and cared about. The default advice is to learn to feel those things single, but I genuinely just do not want to. I hate falling asleep without a smile on my face, I hate starting my day without a loving text to wake up to. My last relationship which was not nearly as serious was 3 months long, but even then I hurt for 6 months and although I was over it the hurt didn't fully stop until I met my now ex.

I feel like I'm someone who just functions better in a relationship, and as I said I still have so much love to give. I don't want to rush anything, but i am really scared. How long will it be till I meet someone who I like as much as I like her? I dont want to be alone for years. How can any future relationship even make me feel safe? You may scoff because we're so young, but we genuinely wanted to be lifelong partners and up until recently believed it would happen. If a relationship which we once thought was so secure it would last a whole lifetime could fall apart, how can i trust any future relationship?

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u/Anxious_Ad9786 — 14 days ago