I 17f I'm a senior in high school I do online school so besides that I trained as a competitive runner in my country ( not the US) and work part time. In my running team we have three coaches . The head coach who has been nothing but amazing who is in his 30s, one of the assistant coaches who is 27 freshly out of college. Finally the assistant coach/ pacer he is the protagonist of this tale. He is 43 years old and goes with me in most of my runs due to the fact that I'm a long distance runner and most of teammates run middle or short distances in our runs sometimes we are accompanied by the assistant coach but most of the time I'm alone with him. Sometimes as a team we like to do recreational trails. Today some of my teammates, a teammates dad the 43 year old assistant coach and I were doing the trail. The others wanted to do a more difficult trail and I didn't want to do it . Since I'm coming back from an ankle injury, the assistant coach offered to stay with me while the others came back, we are sitting down and I feel him trying to sit oddly near me. I'm a control freak about my personal space so I don't think much of it. We talk about our runs when suddenly he kissed me in the lips. I did not know what to do in the moment and simply froze there. I simply sat there, he apologize and continue talking about my training while also giving me compliments not only as a athlete but as a "woman" telling me that few could understand me as much as he did. I was so taken a back an uncomfortable specially because I have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend or kissed anyone. I simply continued listening to the conversation while waiting for my other teammates. I also couldn't really leave since I didn't know the trail well enough to get back to car, plus coming back from an ankle injury and doing a trail on my own might be dangerous, I also couldn't get back to the car if I wanted because my friend's dad who was guiding the other teammates was the one who drove me so I didn't really have any other options but to wait for the rest of the group. I also tried calming myself down by remembering the place were we were sitted at was surrounded by other people. I had to wait there with him for half and hour for the others to get back all the time I was looking around avoiding to be fully alone with him. He was the one who told me not to go with the others due to my injury I can't help but think that he simply wanted to be alone with him. My country is deeply unsafe for women, that is why my head coach is always insisting on one of the head coaches or male teammates go to runs with me. He is usually supposed to keep me safe yet I no longer feel safe around him. I also haven't told anyone nor I am planning to in my country it's not taken seriously plus he only kissed me so If I tell people they will just think I'm being dramatic. Also , I don't want to change running clubs either since the head coach is amazing and my teammates are too. I am close to qualifying to the national selection for international competitions and have won a couple of cash prices at competitions. I don't want this one moment to ruin my career however, what he did maksw me truly uncomfortable. I simply have no other choice but to pretend it didn't happen and request the other assistant coach to accompany me more often and avoid him as much as I can. I think this is just a situation without a solution I just had to get this of my chest, sorry for the grammar and being dramatic.
u/Anxious-Dealer265
I 17f I'm a senior in high school I do online school so besides that I trained as a competitive runner in my country ( not the US) and work part time. In my running team we have three coaches . The head coach who has been nothing but amazing who is in his 30s, one of the assistant coaches who is 27 freshly out of college. Finally the assistant coach/ pacer he is the protagonist of this tale. He is 43 years old and goes with me in most of my runs due to the fact that I'm a long distance runner and most of teammates run middle or short distances in our runs sometimes we are accompanied by the assistant coach but most of the time I'm alone with him. Sometimes as a team we like to do recreational trails. Today some of my teammates, a teammates dad the 43 year old assistant coach and I were doing the trail. The others wanted to do a more difficult trail and I didn't want to do it . Since I'm coming back from an ankle injury, the assistant coach offered to stay with me while the others came back, we are sitting down and I feel him trying to sit oddly near me. I'm a control freak about my personal space so I don't think much of it. We talk about our runs when suddenly he kissed me in the lips. I did not know what to do in the moment and simply froze there. I simply sat there, he apologize and continue talking about my training while also giving me compliments not only as a athlete but as a "woman" telling me that few could understand me as much as he did. I was so taken a back an uncomfortable specially because I have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend or kissed anyone. I simply continued listening to the conversation while waiting for my other teammates. I also couldn't really leave since I didn't know the trail well enough to get back to car, plus coming back from an ankle injury and doing a trail on my own might be dangerous, I also couldn't get back to the car if I wanted because my friend's dad who was guiding the other teammates was the one who drove me so I didn't really have any other options but to wait for the rest of the group. I also tried calming myself down by remembering the place were we were sitted at was surrounded by other people. I had to wait there with him for half and hour for the others to get back all the time I was looking around avoiding to be fully alone with him. He was the one who told me not to go with the others due to my injury I can't help but think that he simply wanted to be alone with him. My country is deeply unsafe for women, that is why my head coach is always insisting on one of the head coaches or male teammates go to runs with me. He is usually supposed to keep me safe yet I no longer feel safe around him. I also haven't told anyone nor I am planning to in my country it's not taken seriously plus he only kissed me so If I tell people they will just think I'm being dramatic. Also , I don't want to change running clubs either since the head coach is amazing and my teammates are too. I am close to qualifying to the national selection for international competitions and have won a couple of cash prices at competitions. I don't want this one moment to ruin my career however, what he did maksw me truly uncomfortable. I simply have no other choice but to pretend it didn't happen and request the other assistant coach to accompany me more often and avoid him as much as I can. I think this is just a situation without a solution I just had to get this of my chest, sorry for the grammar and being dramatic.