u/Antique-Staff-904

I keep seeing my boyfriend liking posts of gym girls on instagram. They aren’t your typical thirst traps but they all seem to have a common theme: curves. I wish I could post photos but I can’t so I’m going to do my best to describe a few:

1. A woman’s post captioned on slide one “if you lift too much you’ll look like a man” with a picture of her flexing her arms, slide 2: “my ‘manly’ features and it’s multiple pictures of her curvy figure

2. A small picture in the corner of messages to recipient saying “how can you even walk with those adductor muscles” and a picture of a curvy woman in underwear showing off her adductors. Underneath the picture of the messages is her doing cable kickbacks

3. A video of a girl showing off her leg muscles

4. A video captioned consistency works and it shows a heavier woman transition into a curvy woman - again she’s wearing underwear

Now it could be excusable saying oh he just likes the gym which he does but it’s worth mentioning I did not see a single post of a man’s progress nor a man showing off his muscles (all of these posts I saw were liked by him in one day btw); when it comes to these posts it also doesn’t help majority of them are showing off curvy figures with big butts - especially when we factor in that when we first started dating he followed a lot of only fans models and liked many photos of girls showing off their butts to which he stopped since I pointed it out (granted he would unfollow then refollow but he hasn’t done that bullshit in 2yrs).

My issue is a lot of this is coming off as soft porn to me and I’m not okay with that. He knows i am uncomfortable with him liking provocative posts of woman but I feel like because they are at the gym this gives him a way of saying oh you are overreacting I just like the gym. I really am at a crossroads but I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if this is genuinely something worthy of leaving him because seeing this stuff genuinely makes me feel insecure as a woman who doesn’t have curves and tends to be on the flatter side.

How do you think I should be reacting to this?

TL;DR my bf of 2 years keeps liking posts of gyms girls on instagram showing off their curves and muscle growth- I cannot tell if this is bad or normal (context in post)

I keep seeing my boyfriend liking posts of gym girls on instagram. They aren’t your typical thirst traps but they all seem to have a common theme: curves. I wish I could post photos but I can’t so I’m going to do my best to describe a few:

1. A woman’s post captioned on slide one “if you lift too much you’ll look like a man” with a picture of her flexing her arms, slide 2: “my ‘manly’ features and it’s multiple pictures of her curvy figure

2. A small picture in the corner of messages to recipient saying “how can you even walk with those adductor muscles” and a picture of a curvy woman in underwear showing off her adductors. Underneath the picture of the messages is her doing cable kickbacks

3. A video of a girl showing off her leg muscles

4. A video captioned consistency works and it shows a heavier woman transition into a curvy woman - again she’s wearing underwear

Now it could be excusable saying oh he just likes the gym which he does but it’s worth mentioning I did not see a single post of a man’s progress nor a man showing off his muscles (all of these posts I saw were liked by him in one day btw); when it comes to these posts it also doesn’t help majority of them are showing off curvy figures with big butts - especially when we factor in that when we first started dating he followed a lot of only fans models and liked many photos of girls showing off their butts to which he stopped since I pointed it out (granted he would unfollow then refollow but he hasn’t done that bullshit in 2yrs).

My issue is a lot of this is coming off as soft porn to me and I’m not okay with that. He knows i am uncomfortable with him liking provocative posts of woman but I feel like because they are at the gym this gives him a way of saying oh you are overreacting I just like the gym. I really am at a crossroads but I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if this is genuinely something worthy of leaving him because seeing this stuff genuinely makes me feel insecure as a woman who doesn’t have curves and tends to be on the flatter side.

How do you think I should be reacting to this?

TL;DR my bf of 2 years keeps liking posts of gyms girls on instagram showing off their curves and muscle growth- I cannot tell if this is bad or normal (context in post)