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Ima jedna starija žena koja je dugo poznavala moju obitelj i s kojom sam povremeno bila u kontaktu. Nikad je nisam gledala negativno, pogotovo jer znam da je u mladosti prošla kroz psihičko i fizičko nasilje pa sam imala razumijevanja za puno toga.
Međutim, kroz vrijeme sam primijetila da se nakon druženja s njom često osjećam iscrpljeno, kao da ostanem bez energije. Razgovori su uglavnom bili usmjereni na nju, njezine teme i ljude s kojima se druži, često vezane uz status i materijalne stvari. To sam neko vrijeme ignorirala i pokušavala ne pridavati tome značaj.
Kasnije se počela više miješati u moj privatni život – saznala je da imam dečka i reagirala iznenađeno, davala komentare i savjete koji su mi bili neugodni, pa čak i provjeravala stvari koje nisu trebale biti njezina briga. To me dodatno udaljilo.
Posebno me iznenadilo kada mi je neki dan na Instagramu repostala staru objavu iz 2020. godine. Nisam sigurna je li to bilo slučajno ili je pratila moj profil, ali me to dodatno potaknulo da postavim granice.
U zadnje vrijeme imam i neugodan osjećaj u kontaktu – kao da me gleda nekako “popreko” i da mi to stvara nelagodu, pa sam još sigurnija u odluku da se distanciram i čuvam svoj mir.
Nakon svega sam odlučila smanjiti kontakt i zaštititi svoj prostor i energiju. Kad bi me zvala ili slala poruke, često bih osjećala pritisak i potrebu da se opravdavam, pa sam shvatila da mi distanca najviše odgovara.Danas smo u korektnom odnosu – “bok, bok” i to je to. Mislim da je u redu zaštititi svoj mir i granice, čak i kad prema nekome imaš poštovanje zbog njegove prošlosti. Jel mislite da se bavi nekim witcraftom? Pričala je nešto da ide k nekim ljudima koji joj govore valjda šta ona želi čuti…

Ima li netko slična iskustva?

Ima jedna starija ženu koja je dugo poznavala moju obitelj i s kojom sam povremeno bila u kontaktu. Nikad je nisam gledala negativno, pogotovo jer znam da je u mladosti prošla kroz psihičko i fizičko nasilje pa sam imala razumijevanja za puno toga.
Međutim, kroz vrijeme sam primijetila da se nakon druženja s njom često osjećam iscrpljeno, kao da ostanem bez energije. Razgovori su uglavnom bili usmjereni na nju, njezine teme i ljude s kojima se druži, često vezane uz status i materijalne stvari. To sam neko vrijeme ignorirala i pokušavala ne pridavati tome značaj.
Kasnije se počela više miješati u moj privatni život – saznala je da imam dečka i reagirala iznenađeno, davala komentare i savjete koji su mi bili neugodni, pa čak i provjeravala stvari koje nisu trebale biti njezina briga. To me dodatno udaljilo.
Posebno me iznenadilo kada mi je neki dan na Instagramu repostala staru objavu iz 2020. godine. Nisam sigurna je li to bilo slučajno ili je pratila moj profil, ali me to dodatno potaknulo da postavim granice.
U zadnje vrijeme imam i neugodan osjećaj u kontaktu – kao da me gleda nekako “popreko” i da mi to stvara nelagodu, pa sam još sigurnija u odluku da se distanciram i čuvam svoj mir.
Nakon svega sam odlučila smanjiti kontakt i zaštititi svoj prostor i energiju. Kad bi me zvala ili slala poruke, često bih osjećala pritisak i potrebu da se opravdavam, pa sam shvatila da mi distanca najviše odgovara.Danas smo u korektnom odnosu – “bok, bok” i to je to. Mislim da je u redu zaštititi svoj mir i granice, čak i kad prema nekome imaš poštovanje zbog njegove prošlosti.
Imate li slična iskustva?

I know an older woman who has known my family for a long time, and I used to have occasional contact with her. I never viewed her negatively, especially because I know she went through psychological and physical abuse in her youth, so I tried to be understanding about many things.

However, over time I started noticing that after spending time with her I often felt drained, as if I had lost all my energy. Our conversations were mostly focused on her, her topics, and the people she associates with, often related to status and material things. I ignored this for a while and tried not to give it too much importance.

Later, she started getting more involved in my private life – she found out I have a boyfriend and reacted with surprise, making comments and giving advice that made me uncomfortable, and even checking things that were not her business. That pushed me further away from her.

I was especially surprised when she reposted an old Instagram post of mine from 2020. I’m not sure whether it was a coincidence or if she had been following my profile, but it made me more aware that I needed to set boundaries.

Recently, I also have an uncomfortable feeling during contact – as if she looks at me in a strange or judgmental way, which creates discomfort for me, so I became even more certain about distancing myself and protecting my peace.

After everything, I decided to reduce contact and protect my space and energy. When she would call or message me, I often felt pressure and the need to justify myself, so I realized that distance works best for me.

Today we are on polite terms – just a “hi, hi” kind of relationship, and that’s it. I believe it’s okay to protect your peace and boundaries, even when you have respect for someone’s past.

I know an older woman who has known my family for a long time, and I used to have occasional contact with her. I never viewed her negatively, especially because I know she went through psychological and physical abuse in her youth, so I tried to be understanding about many things.

However, over time I started noticing that after spending time with her I often felt drained, as if I had lost all my energy. Our conversations were mostly focused on her, her topics, and the people she associates with, often related to status and material things. I ignored this for a while and tried not to give it too much importance.

Later, she started getting more involved in my private life – she found out I have a boyfriend and reacted with surprise, making comments and giving advice that made me uncomfortable, and even checking things that were not her business. That pushed me further away from her.

I was especially surprised when she reposted an old Instagram post of mine from 2020. I’m not sure whether it was a coincidence or if she had been following my profile, but it made me more aware that I needed to set boundaries.

Recently, I also have an uncomfortable feeling during contact – as if she looks at me in a strange or judgmental way, which creates discomfort for me, so I became even more certain about distancing myself and protecting my peace.

After everything, I decided to reduce contact and protect my space and energy. When she would call or message me, I often felt pressure and the need to justify myself, so I realized that distance works best for me.

Today we are on polite terms – just a “hi, hi” kind of relationship, and that’s it. I believe it’s okay to protect your peace and boundaries, even when you have respect for someone’s past.

I know an older woman who has known my family for a long time, and I used to have occasional contact with her. I never viewed her negatively, especially because I know she went through psychological and physical abuse in her youth, so I tried to be understanding about many things.

However, over time I started noticing that after spending time with her I often felt drained, as if I had lost all my energy. Our conversations were mostly focused on her, her topics, and the people she associates with, often related to status and material things. I ignored this for a while and tried not to give it too much importance.

Later, she started getting more involved in my private life – she found out I have a boyfriend and reacted with surprise, making comments and giving advice that made me uncomfortable, and even checking things that were not her business. That pushed me further away from her.

I was especially surprised when she reposted an old Instagram post of mine from 2020. I’m not sure whether it was a coincidence or if she had been following my profile, but it made me more aware that I needed to set boundaries.

Recently, I also have an uncomfortable feeling during contact – as if she looks at me in a strange or judgmental way, which creates discomfort for me, so I became even more certain about distancing myself and protecting my peace.

After everything, I decided to reduce contact and protect my space and energy. When she would call or message me, I often felt pressure and the need to justify myself, so I realized that distance works best for me.

Today we are on polite terms – just a “hi, hi” kind of relationship, and that’s it. I believe it’s okay to protect your peace and boundaries, even when you have respect for someone’s past.

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