u/Angelll0000

Hello, I want to study the option of moving there and have a few questions. Please DM me if you are free for that.

Here is the thing,.

I have been such a bad judge of men’s characters most of my life, i am F26.

The thing is i keep normalizing everything and helping the men I’m around and thinking “oh i can make it work”, but in reality i take losers and become a life coach for them while i try to convince myself i am just helping better their lives, and by the end they do something horrible that feels unbelievable after all the help i give and leave me heart broken.

Look, simple question? How do i know he is a good man that isn’t just there to use me even unconsciously? How do I know he is solid and a trustworthy character?

Help me through your good experiences and your knowledge because after my last heartbreak im disgusted disappointed and i feel like i will never meet a decent man.

I am 26 and in my culture women kinda live off your parents until you are married or inherit them so i was never taught anything about finances.

I did study abroad so the only financial lesson I learned how to manage the funds I got from said parents and make it last the month. I had art time jobs to make some extra “travel and fun” money.

About a year ago I got into a fight with my parents about wanting to be independent and to stay abroad so i was left to be 100% independent, it was rocky start but now I am setting into a stable job and making relatively better than minimum wage where i am.

Since i have a bit of disposable income every month and up until now I only bought gold with it because it was one of the only lessons I learned from adults around me. This saves my money over time sure but it doesn’t grow my funds, i have goals and i want to be more financially free.

My question is, where do I start?
What educational resources i should check?
What was can I take with a little extra money monthly?
How do i reach my humble financial goals?

I feel reading a book that the character is going through what I am going through it will help me get better.

I am restarting my life from zero, lost most my friends in my city, and cut off from my family.

It is hard to be hopeful things will get better after constant heartbreaks.

Any suggestions?

I 25F was finally getting my life together.
Last year I cut off my family and decided to get going with my life alone.
The year before it i also cut off most of my friends in the city i live in (i was still good friends with my friends back home) because they started getting into drugs too much not just for fun or experience but it was dependency.
So 2025 felt like starting from zero trying to find a job a good apartment to live, and slowly i started reaching out to my friends again. It was lovely and very emotional to build bridges again, and i started liking one of the guys in the group (he was new in the circle).
Without much context because it was very traumatic for me, one night 8 months into me and that guy sharing feelings he sits me down and tells me how since day one he hasn’t been comfortable with me and he shared that with the rest of the group and they accused me of knowing all along and kept pushing him.
Ive been called bad names accused of horrible things and emotionally manipulating him.
I am confident about what i given and how i didn’t know and i have wrongly accused.
It is just so heartbreaking to see i have to start from zero again. I have no close friends in my city again, everyone flipped on me without hearing my side, i feel very blind sided, i had to leave the apartment i settled in because i lived with 3 of my friends. They decided Im in the wrong without hearing me.
I thankfully had a friend out of town visiting the next morning. She helped me pick myself up get packed and find a new place.
Now I’m about to start a new job settled in my new place but i feel a hole in me, they were my second family after i left mine i knew them since my third yeas of my undergrad i feel attacked and stabbed in the back, i wasn’t even given space to talk my side if the story.
I restarted a lot of times in my life but i never had to with no backbone nor with this big heartbreak.
I need advice and i also would love to feel sane and know others went through something similar where in a day your life flipped and had to restart like this.
Thank you