U Have been living in bangalore, yet unavailable (may be emotionally) I never been nervous or hesitated even if it was a belt highly class women. it looks completely normal to me unlike other men's story I heard. I feel like I should start dating, and fall in love to experience this. I don't know whether I belong to red flag or green flag!
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I need a video editor for my long term project.
Requirements:
Adobe user, No capct/mobile editors
will accept only if portfolio is attached.
send me your name, place and your portfolio in my dm.
I need a video editor for my long term project.
Requirements:
Adobe user, No capct/mobile editors
will accept only if portfolio is attached.
send me your name, place and your portfolio in my dm.
I started on mid-2023 and you may think I finally stopped being a guy who just searches for new excuses? Unfortunutelly no.
To be honest with you guys, my first 1.5 years actually weren't impressive at all. Yes, I was going to the gym and yes, I was eating clean, but that was literally it.
Outside the gym, I was just scrolling all day, watching corn, and doing basically nothing with my life.
Imagine being 24, having no real job, and not being able to pull a girl because you had so little money you could only afford to eat and go to the gym. I was in that trap for way too long. I knew it, but it was so scary to just start doing something about it.
At the beginning of 2025 (mid-Feb), I decided to actually change my entire life, and I just did it.
I was procrastinating for so long just because I knew it was going to be hell. But it actually wasn't. The real hell was that anxiety. The hell was those days when you feel like sht just cuz you did nothing good. And I'm so happy I started that day and wasn't waiting for the perfect day (like the 1st of the month or even worse, the beginning of the year hahhaha).
Overall (in 3y) I dropped 120lbs, but after that “new me" switch in 2025, so much changed:
- I started learning business and launched a coaching company (now doing $20k/month).
- I read 40 books (which sounds crazy to old me).
- I quit corn completely. And I'm not scrolling anymoreee.
- I finally found a girlfriend and built THE BEST relationship I could have ever imagined. (Sofia if u read this, know that I love uuu❤️)
A lot of people think the gym is the reason my life changed, but it actually wasn't. The real reason was that exact moment I said "I'm done," and I was actually serious about it for once.
I think most of you guys just aren't serious enough yet. You live your life on autopilot, hit a wall, and think, "Uh, okay, fck it, I will just try again tomorrow when I have more energy."
Tomorrow Never Comes.
You have to try NOW. Just 1 step ahead. Don't obsess over where you will be 1 year from now. Set the goal, then zoom all the way in and only think about what you can do right now to move the needle.
My 2026 is going incredibly well. I have a clear plan of what I want to accomplish, and cuz of that clarity, I can just execute. I honestly believe that without clear, visible goals, I wouldn't be here.
I don't know if I can mention it here, but around 6 mo ago I started using an app to help me be more focused on my goals (like in my screenshot). But i think paper is fine too!
I'm also using app blockers (Jomo on laptop and Opal on my phone)
You can use whatever you want, just write those goals down!! It’s just so helpful to actually see the direction you are running in every single day so you can act on it instead of just drifting.
If you are waiting for a sign or for a day when you "feel like it," you are going to be waiting forever. You just have to be serious about being done with your old self.
Set your goals and start from now. This is going to be your “day one”.
Curious why you havent started yet?
I’ve been stuck in the p*rn and all those bad habits trap basically since I was 11. By the time I was 21, my brain was so fried I didn't even realize how much of my drive was completely gone. It just felt normal to be numb, anxious, and unmotivated.
Then last year, I made some incredibly stupid decisions and ended up doing a 3-month stint in a low-security facility.
If you’ve never been locked up, let me explain something: the boredom will literally eat you alive. You are stuck in a box with your own thoughts for 23 hours a day.
I managed to get my hands on a phone from a guy on my block...
You would think having a phone in jail would be a blessing. It wasn't. With zero women around, zero things to do, and maximum stress, that phone became my only escape hatch. I was jerking off to p*rn 5-6 or sometimes 8+ times a day just to kill time and numb the anxiety of being locked up in a freaking concrete room.
Around month 2, I hit absolute rock bottom. I looked at myself in the mirror and realized: If I don't fix myself when I get out of here, I am going to be a shit for the rest of my life.
I made a promise to myself in that cell. The second I walk out those gates, I am going completely all-in on rebuilding my life. (actually i started improving myself in jail but the biggest change was after i got outside.)
The 60-Day Rebuild (Outside)
I got out around two months ago. Today is Day 60 of being 100% clean from p*rn, doomscrolling, junk food and coffe.
The first month was fucking warfare. I knew my willpower was going to break, so I had to change my environment. I set up strict blockers on my phone and PC that I literally couldn't bypass.
But blocking the bad stuff wasn't enough. When you take away your only source of dopamine, the emptiness is terrifying. I had to start focusing on my life goals, or I was going to relapse out of pure boredom.
I mapped out exactly what my life was going to look like. I started tracking my habits, and actually was focusing on my goals: get a real job, get in the best shape of my life, read a book a week.
The Progress (Day 60 today):
The way these habits are compounding right now is honestly scaring me (in a good way).
The Best Job I've Ever Had: Because my brain fog is gone, my social anxiety completely vanished. I walked into an interview last week with a crazy amount of calm confidence. I literally start the best job of my life on Monday.
The Best Shape of My Life: All that nervous, pent-up sexual energy had to go somewhere. I've been destroying the gym 5 days a week.
The Vibe: I actually read books now. I speak clearer. I look people in the eye. When you stop living in that dark, pixelated fog, life actually feels alive.
If you’ve been stuck in this trap since you were a kid, trust me. You do not need to hit rock bottom in a cell to change your life.
You just have to stop negotiating with your own brain. Lock down your phone, map out an actual future you want to run towards, and survive today.
Has anyone else here had to hit absolute rock bottom before finally woke up?
Today is my 96 day I quit all of this stuff. It sounds extreme, but it didn’t feel like some insane discipline chalenge. For me quitting everything at once was about as hard as quitting one thing, just without letting my brain jump to a new distraction.
What changed?
The biggest change was how quiet my head got. I can sit with myself without instantly reaching for stimulation, and I’m a lot more present with people. Work feels smoother too: I just sit, focus, finish, and move on instead of fighting urges every ten minutes haha.
My confidence didnt suddenly explode like people say, it just built slowly. Trusting myself a tiny bit more each week made a big difference. Now meeting new people feels easier and got a girlfriend through the process (If you are reading this, I love you ❤️).
And, for my surprise, the things I quit feel boring now. It could sound weird but it isnt because I’m above them, my brain isn’t starved for constant hits anymore.
How I changed it?
The mindset that helped the most was keeping it to “just today.” Forever, decades, years, months (even weeks) is too big. Today is the best because it is just some small steps and, if you know the compound effect, well, there you go.
I also stopped beating myself up every time I felt cravings or slipped. I am chrsitian, so I used to fight this a lot back then. But I needed to remember that we're forgiven just to be a child of God. If you're non-religious: slipping isn’t a failure, it’s part of being human. You don’t need to "earn" the right to start over. You can just start again.
Idk If can mention the apps but near the end of this whole process, I also started using tools to stay focused and consistent about what I actually wanted to work towards (Purposa app) and to keep my phone from dragging me back (OneSec). It was like a month ago that I started using these and it was when I mostly needed them.
Before all of this I’d spent years trying to quit each habit separately: games since I was a child, caffeine for years and scrolling basically my whole adult life Basically, nothing stuck because every time I dropped one thing, I’d pick up another.
Advice
I’m not saying everyone should do this, but if you feel stuck in those adicctions, it’s not hopeless. Lower the noise a bit, take it one day at a time, and keep things simple. The real work was just showing up every day and not running away from myself. Keep going and (like Iman Gazhi says) I am rooting for you 🙌
Today is my 96 day I quit all of this stuff. It sounds extreme, but it didn’t feel like some insane discipline chalenge. For me quitting everything at once was about as hard as quitting one thing, just without letting my brain jump to a new distraction.
What changed?
The biggest change was how quiet my head got. I can sit with myself without instantly reaching for stimulation, and I’m a lot more present with people. Work feels smoother too: I just sit, focus, finish, and move on instead of fighting urges every ten minutes haha.
My confidence didnt suddenly explode like people say, it just built slowly. Trusting myself a tiny bit more each week made a big difference. Now meeting new people feels easier and got a girlfriend through the process (If you are reading this, I love you ❤️).
And, for my surprise, the things I quit feel boring now. It could sound weird but it isnt because I’m above them, my brain isn’t starved for constant hits anymore.
How I changed it?
The mindset that helped the most was keeping it to “just today.” Forever, decades, years, months (even weeks) is too big. Today is the best because it is just some small steps and, if you know the compound effect, well, there you go.
I also stopped beating myself up every time I felt cravings or slipped. I am chrsitian, so I used to fight this a lot back then. But I needed to remember that we're forgiven just to be a child of God. If you're non-religious: slipping isn’t a failure, it’s part of being human. You don’t need to "earn" the right to start over. You can just start again.
Idk If can mention the apps but near the end of this whole process, I also started using tools to stay focused and consistent about what I actually wanted to work towards (Purposa app) and to keep my phone from dragging me back (OneSec). It was like a month ago that I started using these and it was when I mostly needed them.
Before all of this I’d spent years trying to quit each habit separately: games since I was a child, caffeine for years and scrolling basically my whole adult life Basically, nothing stuck because every time I dropped one thing, I’d pick up another.
Advice
I’m not saying everyone should do this, but if you feel stuck in those adicctions, it’s not hopeless. Lower the noise a bit, take it one day at a time, and keep things simple. The real work was just showing up every day and not running away from myself. Keep going and (like Iman Gazhi says) I am rooting for you 🙌