BIL is "managing" my family’s home, outsourcing his husband duties to me, and asking creepy personal questions.
I’m at my parents' home helping my sister with her newborn. My brother-in-law (BIL) is also here and has been "mansplaining" postpartum care to my mom and me ever since the birth. He sends long, unsolicited texts about PPD and "bonding," claiming his research made him an expert, LOL.
Meanwhile, my mom is doing a lot for both my sister and the baby, he just keeps talking about what else my family should do- what is more surprising is that his own mom and dad haven’t even shown up to meet baby yet.
Now, he’s trying to dump his responsibilities on me.
He’s "directing" me to arrange something for Mother’s Day for his own wife because he’s "worried she feels secondary."
It’s annoying to get these texts every day where he’s expecting us to do certain things, it’s not like we aren’t but I don’t like being instructed every day.
Worst part is that he is using his "bonding training" as an excuse to ask me incredibly invasive, inappropriate questions about the sex life in my new marriage. He claims he’s just being a "male friend," but it feels predatory and disgusting.
I haven’t told my husband because he’ll be super mad and it might affect family relationships but I’m too mad at him and want to be distant.
TL;DR: My BIL is lecturing my family on baby care, making me plan his wife's Mother's Day, and asking me inappropriate questions about my marriage under the guise of "corporate bonding."