My cousin is bullying me and following me everywhere.
My cousin is older than me by 3 months, we both have the same name since his mother decided to name him the same name that my parents decided first. We’ve always had tension growing up because our parents compare us to each other. We went to the same kindergarten, school and now uni. We used to be best friends until after Covid where he became very distant. During high school people are were more socially attracted to him and he’d have more friends than me. I’ve had the same classmates since elementary. Those classmates were bullies. So I wasn’t really friends with them but somehow they accepted my cousin. And I thought that those bullies bullied me because of my country. I hate my cousin so much. He introduced me to porn since we were 8 and I hate him so much for that because it fucked up a lot of things in the family. We were best friends when we were kids but when my another cousin that rarely visits our city, they both hangout together and ignore me. In September 25 we got accepted into the same university. My heart sank when I received this information because we didn’t tell each other what we’re applying for. Now we’re both studying abroad in Ireland, and it’s medicine. I improved socially since high school but people don’t seem to like me a lot, but for my cousin they make him the center socially. I’m not jealous that he managed to be better friends with them, speaking honestly, I don’t like MOST of them and I don’t talk to them, however I made some good friends with other people but they ignore me when my cousin is there. It’s annoying because my cousin belittles them infront of everyone. Like oh you’re so short I didn’t even notice you or greet a person later after greeting multiple others or laughing at everything they say. I observe a lot and the looks on their faces when he belittles them is funny because they stop and try to prove themselves to him. He did this to multiple people. He is a bully. Problem is when people learnt that were cousins they were okay with it but he doesn’t like that people know that. When we have chats or anything he acts like he doesn’t know me and ignore me. I won’t try to prove myself to him. Anyways, my point is, he’s so disrespectful and I don’t like the fact that he’ll make my life hell during medical school. Why couldn’t you just reject the scholarship when you learnt that I too was accepted. Leave me alone. People now avoid me because they think he’s better. I’m also paranoid that he tells them stuff about me, people bring up stuff that I didn’t tell them. They’ve learnt it from him which I really don’t like.
I really need a way to bring up this conversation with him and ask him not to make my life miserable in medical school, it’s already causing me to get depressed again. I’ve had months where I didn’t leave my home at all during high school because depression and I hate how I feel like I’m falling into that again because how he makes people see me.