u/Ancient_Bath3319

I’m 35 and about 7 weeks along. I have a SA scheduled for 5/13. I’m planning to be sedated. I’m just getting really scared for the whole thing. The sedation worries me. I’ve read a lot on here to try to prepare myself but the closer it gets the more nervous I am becoming. While I’ve read a lot on what to expect day of, I haven’t seen much on after. I’m planning to work the next day from home. Does that seem feasible? Should I take off the remainder of the week off? Any insight or advice is appreciated.

Married for 7 years, together for 10. Intimacy has always been an issue. The issue being that he wants it literally everyday and I don’t. Whenever I would say no he would throw literal temper tantrums. Mind you we were still doing it several times a week. But he would still throw tantrums and manipulate me saying he doesn’t ask for anything from me and this is the only thing and I can’t even do that. After a while I just gave in. I just lay there and let him have his way. There have been times I’ve cried and he’s still able to get off. It’s sick. His sickness reached a new level. I am postpartum and didn’t want to be on hormonal birth control while I healed. He refused to wear a condom. I felt like I had no choice. I am postpartum, tired from taking care of the baby alone and vulnerable. I gave in. I’m almost positive he finished inside of me on purpose despite my explicit request not to. Long story short, I’m pregnant and getting an abortion. He is well aware of my choice and is “supportive.” However, I’ve been a complete emotional mess and am starting to have morning sickness which is all day sickness. I have no interest in being intimate because of this and the general aversion he created in me with his demands for sex. Tonight, he tried to initiate sex while I was sleeping. I rebuffed and he got mad, huffing and puffing. I eventually gave in and he wanted to finish inside me and I said no, I don’t care if I’m already pregnant. He got angry, finished and went to sleep. I’ve questioned my sanity for a long time but I truly don’t think it’s me. I think he is just a sex addict monster. I don’t even know what advice can be given beyond take my precious child and run. I don’t think there is any fixing us because there is no fixing him. I’m not perfect, but I’m also not fucking a dead fish against their will every night.