u/Altruistic_Delay6554

Looking for advice on how to navigate a living apart situation with my wife and our jobs. For context we have been married for 13 years.

About 8 months ago my wife took a job that is 2-3 hours away from where we were living at the time. She was hating her job at the time and was having such bad anxiety about going to work, so it came at a good time and felt like a good opportunity for her.

Her new job offered her 2 days in the office a week with the rest of the time work from home. However just before she was about to start they changed their policy for her to be in the office everyday during her initial 6 months. This was a last minute change and made things difficult but there wasn’t really another option.

I wasn’t able to leave my job at the time and I work in the office everyday so couldn’t move with her. I bought it up to my company and my situation and they said they would make it work if I needed to be remote. However about 2 months after I had asked, my company changed its policy that it wouldn’t be able to do remote work anymore and only hiring for people in office. It’s a small company of only about 15 people.

One of the main reasons my wife took the job is the health benefits as she want to freeze her eggs and I have not been able to support her, which is tough and I don’t want her to go through this alone. My wife likes her job and doesn’t want to quit and I like my job but would move if a better opportunity came along. My wife’s work has now allowed her to work from home 2 days a week. My wife wants me to move down, I want to move there too because it’s been hard living apart. I tried floating the idea of somewhere in between as my work does not want me to work remote. That way my wife’s commute is an hour each or so 2/3 times a week and mine will be about the same. I already commute that now anyway.

TL;DR: my wife and i have been living apart for the last 8 months and my lease is coming to a close and figuring out the next best option without losing my job if I can.

Looking for advice on how to navigate a living apart situation with my wife and our jobs.

About 8 months ago my wife took a job that is 2-3 hours away from where we were living at the time. She was hating her job at the time and was having such bad anxiety about going to work, so it came at a good time and felt like a good opportunity for her.

Her new job offered her 2 days in the office a week with the rest of the time work from home. However just before she was about to start they changed their policy for her to be in the office everyday during her initial 6 months. This was a last minute change and made things difficult but there wasn’t really another option.

I wasn’t able to leave my job at the time and I work in the office everyday so couldn’t move with her. I bought it up to my company and my situation and they said they would make it work if I needed to be remote. However about 2 months after I had asked, my company changed its policy that it wouldn’t be able to do remote work anymore and only hiring for people in office. It’s a small company of only about 15 people.

One of the main reasons my wife took the job is the health benefits as she want to freeze her eggs and I have not been able to support her, which is tough and I don’t want her to go through this alone. My wife likes her job and doesn’t want to quit and I like my job but would move if a better opportunity came along. My wife’s work has now allowed her to work from home 2 days a week. My wife wants me to move down, I want to move there too because it’s been hard living apart. I tried floating the idea of somewhere in between as my work does not want me to work remote. That way my wife’s commute is an hour each or so 2/3 times a week and mine will be about the same. I already commute that now anyway.

TL;DR: my wife and i have been living apart for the last 8 months and my lease is coming to a close and figuring out the next best option without losing my job if I can.