I haven’t dated in a long time. My last experience was honestly terrible, and it took me a full year of processing and healing just to get over that person.
I used to have a really bad anxious attachment style, but after what I went through, I’ve swung to the complete opposite end of the spectrum. Now, my "avoidant" walls are up so high that at the very first sign of a red flag, I cut people off immediately. No questions asked, no second chances. I’m just done.
The problem is, I went on a first date last night and I really, really liked him. The chemistry was great, we had an amazing time, and I even ended up back at his place for a bit (nothing happened). But now, he’s moving at 100mph. He’s already calling me "babe" and "baby" and pushing to see me a second night in a row.
My gut is screaming that he’s just trying to get laid, especially because he says he wants something serious but his actions feel very "hookup-y".
Because of my past, I can’t tell if I’m overreacting and being "too fast" to cut him off, or if my intuition is finally protecting me from another year of heartbreak.
I don't want to do fast-paced anymore, but I also don't want to run away from something that could be good just because I'm scared.
Thoughts?