u/Alternative-Ebb391

I’m not saying I was perfect or that she’s some monster. But I genuinely feel broken by how this relationship ended.

We were engaged, not casually dating. I loved her deeply and treated her like my future wife. I supported her emotionally , and stood beside her during difficult moments in her life.

Then suddenly one day she said she “doesn’t feel it anymore.”

After that she emotionally disappeared. Almost 2 months of distance, coldness, and barely responding while I was trying to understand what happened to the person I thought loved me.

Eventually I became exhausted and officially ended the engagement respectfully through her family because I couldn’t stay trapped forever waiting for basic communication.

But what truly destroyed me was what happened after.

I tried reaching out one last time only to end things peacefully and say goodbye properly. No response. Then blocks everywhere.

Recently I lost my job abroad, have debts, financial pressure, and honestly my mental state became terrible partly because of how this breakup happened.

So I contacted her one final time and told her honestly:
“I’m going through a major crisis. I lost my job, I’m struggling mentally, and the way our relationship ended left me deeply damaged. I’m not asking to get back together. I just want a respectful ending so I can move on peacefully.”

She blocked me again without even saying:
“I hope things get better for you.”
Not even one minute. Not even one kind sentence.

What made me surprised that one day she had serious work and financial problems. I listened to her for hours while she cried, helped her mentally, paid off debts she had, and tried to make her feel safe. She used to tell me things like:
“God sent you to me like an angel.”

And this is what my brain cannot process.

How can someone cry in your arms, call you an angel, let you carry their pain and debts, then later treat you like you never mattered at all?

Part of me keeps trying to excuse her behavior:
“Maybe she’s struggling.”
“Maybe she’ll apologize one day.”
“Maybe she still cares deep down.”

But another part of me feels humiliated and ashamed of myself for still searching for humanity from someone who showed me none when I was at my lowest.

I don’t want her back anymore.
I just want my dignity back.

How do you finally accept that someone caused you real damage, intentionally or unintentionally, and stop waiting for the apology or closure that may never come?

I’m healing from being ghosted and rejected by someone I truly loved, and honestly it’s been one of the hardest things I’ve ever felt.

The relationship ended without me doing anything wrong, at least nothing that explains the way she became so cold at the end. What hurts most is how she acted like she never really cared. It’s been almost 3 months and I’m still struggling to move on.

There’s another girl in my life who has always been kind to me and showed genuine interest in me. Before I dated my ex, I actually had feelings for her already. Part of me wants to give this relationship a chance and see where it could go.

But I’m scared because I haven’t fully healed yet.

Do you think I should wait longer before dating again? Or can starting something healthy with someone kind actually help me heal and move forward?

I really don’t want to hurt someone else the way I was hurt.

What makes this harder is that this other girl sees good in me naturally. During my relationship with my ex, I used to wonder why my ex couldn’t treat me with the same kindness.

I don’t know if I’m emotionally ready or just afraid to let myself be cared for again.

I was in a relationship with my ex-fiancée for about a year and a half.

I loved only once in my life and I gave that love everything I had.

I was deeply, completely in love with her. I tried to be everything she needed… her support, her listener, her advisor, her friend, her partner, even her family when she felt she had no one else. At the beginning, she was going through so much, and she came to me for everything—even things she couldn’t share with her own family. And I was always there. Always kind. Always available.

She used to tell me I was a blessing in her life. She’d thank God for me, call me her protector, her angel. I believed every word. I was ready to choose her over myself in any situation.

We got engaged, and everything felt right… calm, loving, stable. Like we were building something real.

Then suddenly… she changed.

She became cold. Replies got late… then disappeared. Sometimes she’d ignore me completely. She started criticizing the smallest things—things I didn’t even understand or even remember doing wrong. I kept asking myself, what did I do?

Then she told me she couldn’t see me as a husband… but still wanted to “try” without promising anything.

That broke something inside me.

We almost broke up many times. Every time, she would change her mind. And I kept holding on… hoping the girl I knew would come back.

Then one day… she just disappeared.

Two months. No replies. No calls. Nothing.

I texted her, trying to understand. Trying to reach her. Silence.

I even told her I accepted whatever decision she made, that I just wanted a proper goodbye… especially because our families were involved. Still nothing.

In the end, I had to call her brother myself. He didn’t even know. Her family told me she wanted to leave. Just like that.

I said okay… even though it wasn’t okay.

I tried to call her one last time—to say goodbye. She didn’t answer.

I sent her a message wishing her well… telling her she’s a good person.

Nothing. Not even a single word.

Three days later, I tried again. I told her we deserved to end things with respect. Still silence.

I even spoke to her family again, asking what I did to deserve this… this level of coldness, this lack of respect. They tried to talk to her—but she didn’t change. She didn’t even give me the dignity of a response.

I tried to close the chapter… but it never really closed.

And now… three months later… I’m still here.

Lost in my thoughts every single day.

Asking myself why.

Why did everything change so suddenly?

I understand that feelings can change… but I’m struggling with how everything ended, without closure, without a single word.

It hurts more than the breakup itself… this silence… like I never mattered.

It made me feel deeply low. I wake up every day with the same questions, the same heaviness in my chest.

I even tried one last time… texting her from another number because she blocked me everywhere. I told her I hope she’s happy. I told her I didn’t want to hold onto negative feelings… that I just wanted us to say goodbye properly and wish each other well.

She blocked me again.

And since then… I’ve been trying to accept it and move forward, but it hasn’t been easy.

I guess I’m just trying to understand how to find closure on my own when the other person refuses to give it.