I really love the nature here a lot… but i find a lot of people here are very entitled and passive aggressive … and in Toronto I found people nicer. as much as I like this city I find it makes me more lonley! I always felt more belong to Toronto but loved the Vancouver nature because I like walking a lot and hiking.
I started talking to this guy on tinder for 2.5 weeks he lives in another city but says he Dosent mind the 1 hour drive. we talked everyday about very personal and emotional stuff he texted me everyday and then… we had a 2 hour phone call and I was nervous because I haven’t dated in 3 years due to mental health problems. … I did over share and I did smoke a little bit of wheeet I did say a lot of unnecessary things…at the end I noticed he was acting as if he wanted to end the call on purpose and then said listen it’s 1am you have work. then I ended call he said I didn’t say bye right immediately and I said I did. the following morning at 10am he sent me a tik tok and I replied ofh nice… then he said send me some:) and requested to follow me on tik tok even tho I told him before i cant accept because I repost a lot of things and didn’t want him to see everything I repost incase it’s unattractive or something… anyways I sent him a tik tok and he took 9 hours to respond at 12am saying ””lit sandwich “ so obviously that Dosent really required a response but since then it’s now been 3 days and he haven’t texted anything… before he texted all the time and would let me know if there will be delay in texting…. should I assume it’s over? I also told him first few days that for me most painful thing is if guy disappears because he said he dissapeared on his ex when he was going through a hard time.
I need advice. I’m a 32 year old female who don’t live my life by society expectation. I want to find a guy who also want a serious relationship but dosent want to have kids and instead wants to enjoy travel and hiking etc. I find it hard as I put on my tinder profile that I’m looking for someone who also child free. while I did get some good messages turns out one guy was saying how about we adopt lol… and some thought they will convince me to have them and others called me shallow because I don’t want to live my life like the “”norm”” any advice what sentences I can put on my profile to get men who also don’t want and to avoid triggering negative reactions? I just don’t want to waste my time going on dates with those who want. also why men get so mad about it? like if you don’t like my profile just swipe why care how someone else chooses to live their life.
I met this guy on dating app 2.5 weeks ago and we connected well talked everyday and sent voice notes daily we had very emotional conversations and opened up to each other very fast…. I told him many of my insecurities… I guess I just no longer into games and just want to be who I am…. anyways he seemed very interested and we were supposed to have a phone call which we did and lasted 2 hours … but at the end of the phone call I noticed he started as if on purpose doing unattractive things and hes self aware so it felt deliberate where he started eating bery loudly and apologized then started talking weird to his cat and then said how he needs to lose weight and try that thing everyone using to get small and it felt as if he did it on purpose and then immediately said ok it’s 1 am you have work tomorrow and I said ok and finished the call he then texted that I didn’t say bye and I said I did… the next morning he send me a link to tik tok and I said nice… and he said send me one and I did and then he didn’t respond all day until 12am saying the item the guy eating in tik tok is lit and that’s it he never reached out been 2 days and we spoke everyday … I don’t know what happened but I was very emotionally open and he was and I told him many things but since then he just not texting me.
I became aware of the world more and see more clearly and see everyone your age age is also so weird.
so there is this guy I matched who lives in another city thas 1.5 hours drive. I have extreme fear of abandonment and get attached like immediately. we matched and spoke for 2 days non stop all day long and I unmatched him this morning because I shared so much about me and because im a lone and very lonely and think he is better then me and has a bit of a different personality and has 2 red flags. I have his number but I unmatched him this morning and blocked him on tik tok. should I text ? how will I appear? he knows I have bad fear of abandonment… and I told him last night before he fell asleep that we have different personalities and he said that my fear of abandonment and avoidant is kicking in… and then he said he might fall asleep and not ignoring me and I said ok no worries… he didn’t text me in the morning so I unmatched because I was scared o said something and the fear of him leaving me first.
if I text what should I say so I don’t appear crazy or should I let it go. But I already miss talking to him because we connected so much. I’m also older then him I’m 32 and his 31.