u/AllergiesYearRound

I made a post in the narcissisticparents subreddit so if you want the details. I’m sure it’s just another similar story to many of you here.

I was just over it after this weekend after two back to back ER trips that my mother brought on herself. I (F38) went no contact with her (66) a couple years ago, got pulled back into her life because we don’t go estranged with our elderly parents in our culture. At this point, I felt necessary to go no contact in order to protect my peace and my family. I have been feeling super shitty today, I lashed out on my kids because of what my mom did and it’d put me in a really bad mental state. I withdrew from my husband and kids, and stayed in the room crying for hours.

I messaged my dad and let him know that I will no longer respond to my mom. What worries me the most is she will use my dad as the emotional punching bag because they live together. I’m an only child and my dad has no other family support besides me.

TLDR: NM went to the ER two nights in a row for medical conditions that are non-life threatening. Informed me that she was hospitalized at 5am on Mother’s day.

Full story: My NM(66) forced my dad (71) to call 911 two nights ago after she took one pill of common antibiotic that was prescribed for her wisdom tooth infection. She claimed that she was “literally dying” and forced my dad to call 911. Cops and EMTs showed up at their house, and sent her to the ER. Because my dad couldn’t drive at night, I had to ditch my sick kids with my husband and drove my dad to the ER. Long story short, the labs came back and there was nothing wrong with her, got discharged and i took them back home. She was very performative during the entire ER visit, said she lost consciousness and didn’t know how she got to the ER, then recounted how the EMT administered medication on the ambulance ride (so she didn’t lose consciousness). Anyway, I was really upset about what happened, because NM knew I had two sick kids at home, and I had to be dragged out to deal with a nothing burger essentially. So on the next day, I told NM that I had other plans on mother’s day and won’t be going to her house.

Lo and behold, I woke up today and received several messages from her, on mother’s day. She told me she went to a different ER and now she’s getting admitted to the hospital for her tooth infection. I started checking my parents’ google locations, my dad was at home and NM was at a hospital far away from home. I also found out she used my credit card to take an uber ride. I contacted my dad, he told me NM told him she had to go to the ER last night, and he told her that’s not so unnecessary because she just went the night before and the doctor told her she’s fine. She freaked out on him, said many ugly things ans screamed at him for a while, said she didn’t need “us” (I guess I was factored into the “us” although I wasn’t there at all), and she went to the ER by herself.

I (38) had gone no contact with NM for several months before because she lashed out on my husband in front of my kids, saying mean things about my kids. Eventually i was somewhat manipulated back into her life because she was having a crisis. I’m so fed up with her, she’s constantly having these dramatic life crisis where I’m forced to rescue her because she’s incapable of managing her emotions. I only answer her calls bc I’m worried about my dad and don’t want my dad to be alone in dealing with her. I’m so tired of her drama and I’m considering going no contact again, and this time I’m cutting her out of my life completely.