u/Alive_Bowler_8037

i'm so relieved and happy and so emotional right now...
i've been diagnosed with depression/anxiety years ago, struggling since i was 12.
now i finally got my autism and adhd diagnosis after one year of doubting and reading everything about autism/adhd. War is over
i finally feel understood

I had a few situations later especially in uni group projects where i don't really understand other people's thoughts/questions so i ask "what do you mean?" or "can you please explain that to me again?" in a (i think) nice tone. People seem irritated or upset about that or get defensive... why?
how can i ask for clarification in a nicer way?