u/Agreeable_Blood_9620

Hello, this is my first post in this sub Reddit. I am 18 M these past four months seven complicated starting in January me and my family were talking about pain for my second special in college which for those wondering no I did not have bad grades and before we even got into the college we already talked about financial things and FASFA, but recently whenever we’re going to do the other loan for the second semester, they out of a sudden decided to just not cosign and help out because they said it won’t mess up their credit even though I’m the one that’s paying for it..

I went to a small school for Football, which did not entirely pay for my college so I had to come back home in which they gave me a week to get a high paying job to pay all my debts because to mention also the year before when I graduated, they gave me a car as a graduation gift, which is really nice except I had to pay for it. I did the down payment by selling my car and I have been making payments on it since and to go further into context I’ve had to work since I was 15 years old to pay for all my stuff I pay all my bills since I was 16 so no I’m not just crying because I have to work and pay bills…

going back to the topic they gave me a week to get a good paying job to start paying off my debts because they expected me to pay off my car this year. And obviously I don’t make enough for that to pay for a car and for college while I have to still live off of my pay as I was working at Walmart and so they sent me to Denver, Colorado and from there I was going to work in the oil and as everyone knows it is going to shit right now because of the war, and I recently got a job offer for a local jail in my hometown which I was talking to my parents and they told me that I am 18 and I am an adult and they do not need to help anymore which I tried to explain to them. It would only be for a couple weeks to a month so I can have that job secured and at least have some income so when I apply to get a house of rent with my buddies, I at least have a source which they said no, and that I need to figure it out on my own..

which that is where I’m stuck right now I feel like they expect a lot of me even though I just I’m about to be 19 in August but I just feel like I’m stuck in a situation right now with all these debts I have and being away from everyone has recently started to make me feel depressed and lonely, even though I am with my grandparents here, which I am grateful for them letting me stay here with them and I would just like to hear some advice on what y’all think I should do because as much as I love my parents, they have always seem to be different towards me as they were telling me a couple months ago how they’re gonna pay for my siblings college, which I just felt hurt from that to be honest. I don’t know how to feel about them with everything happening.

I just wish I had someone to support me back home. and I didn’t mention, but the job back home actually would pay me more than I get here which is why I would like to come back because that can help me out with my dad and the rent is also pretty cheap there which would help me out in a long run and I would so be close to my siblings and friends and my girlfriend for three years.

Thank you for reading this.

Am I the asshole? I’m 18m and this is my first post on here. Recently I feel like my life has just been falling apart and don’t know what to do. It started in August and I was getting ready to go to college me and my parents agreed and did the paperwork the k my thing is I was paying and they were the co-signers. Which is normal I believe. But I just wrapped up my first semester and we had to do another loan but this time they didn’t want to. I ended up having to leave college and went back home where my mom and step dad gave me a week to find a job. I worked at the Walmart in Texas but you obviously can’t live off of that. They blame me for going and I didn’t mention that they got me a car as a graduation gift… except I had to pay it? My car was fine it was a 2009 Hyundai sonata but they decided to get me a 2017 mustang ecoboost which I love but it has put a strain on me financially.. now tha I mention that they told me how I put myself in this situation and I need to go somewhere to get better pay.. they gave me a week to find a job which obviously didn’t happen which then they kicked me out to Denver co to be with my grandparents.. which tbh the only good thing that came out of it is that I see my grandparents everyday lol.. I am now just doing overnight at the Walmart in Denver I make decent money but I have just found a better paying job and one that helps me in my law enforcement career as a jailer.. I talked to them and they keep telling me it’s a bad idea and they don’t approve. But I feel like if I’m old enough to just get kicked out and go to another state why can’t I come back to home with a better job. And with that job it will be a little till I start because of the test and shots I would need. So I told them I would have money put up so I’ll be fine while I wait and I said it would be at max a month that I’m back home with them until I can get a house to rent with my friends. They told me I’m 18 and they don’t have to help me anymore. So I’m kind of stuck and I can only think to stay with friends and in my car. I’m thinking about just cutting off contact now with them. But am I overreacting? And what do yall recommend I do? I’m just Stuck in this point in life and have been getting depressed just from being alone all the time and just working. I’d rather do something I enjoy but I feel limited because of my parents.