My ex's boyfriend thinks he can discipline our teenage children and that he is a parent.
My ex and I have been BATTLING over this one for over two years now. She says her boyfriend has parental authority over our teenage children and has the authority to discipline them. I am vehemently against this, she is the sole authority figure at that house.
He has taken my son's cellphone away from him multiple times before he was to go with me on a trip, I told him he can't do that, and got cussed out for it. He says that since he took it away I cannot override his decision. One time I took it away and he calls me up and told me that "You will bring the phone back to my house as you were instructed to do!" and then he sent my ex to my house to get the phone from my son because I was at work and couldn't kick her out.
Am I wrong for thinking he has no right to discipline my kids?
I have kept a very calm and cool demeanor and not blown up on him for fear of going viral and/or losing my clearances at work because I work with kids. This has gone on for so long I am wondering if crashing out on him would actually work. He has gotten loud and tried to embarrass me publicly at all three of my kid's schools and I've done nothing due to me not wanting to risk losing my job, going to jail, and/or getting trespassed.
Any insight would be appreciated. I am at my wits end with all of this. To crash out and show him who the real boss is, or to wait out the storm and pray it subsides. That is the question.