u/Aggressive-Bike8632

So i’m an incoming freshman at SMU but they don’t have the major I want. My current choice is sociology, but I want a more criminology focused major. I chose SMU over Loyola Chicago even though they had the major I wanted because I felt like I’d have a better chance of transferring to a tougher school from SMU if I keep my freshman grades high. Any recs of schools with a criminology program that I have a chance of transferring into?? (Also preferably one that’s not 90k a year..) Any advice is appreciated!

PSA: THIS IS REALLY LONG I APOLOGIZE BUT IM REALLY LOST RIGHT NOW (any advice is extremely appreciated). My ex boyfriend and I were together since we were 13 and 15 (our grades still touched) and early on some rules were set in place but I was so young I didn’t really understand how a real relationship worked at the time. Around junior year my peers began partying and drinking, I was invited but not allowed to drink or smoke or attend without my boyfriend present. There was a time when he also cared about what a wore (it was a skirt to a concert with my bsf) and that fight ended with him leaving me. We got back together the next day. Fast forward, toward my 17th birthday which is at the end of the school year, he allowed me to drink but i didn’t very often until the beginning of senior year. I got closer to my gay best friend who I’ve known since i was in 7th grade (we were never really close until junior year), and later in the year, he started hating him. Broke up with me around 6 times in my senior year because i took fun pictures with cool poses with my gbf, and just “couple” poses with him, or if i danced with him (usually just meant jumping in a near vicinity) longer than i did my bf, it became so bad I literally was afraid to speak to my friend at parties for fear id get left again. Some parties left me traumatized cause of the fights we had when he’d become black out drunk and get furious with me. Anyways besides all that, he promised he’d change and I could do what I want and he’d still get mad/upset and just not tell me, which made no sense cause that’s not what i want? It’s not like i’d ever cheat on him, you’d think almost 5 years together would create a certain amount of trust but I guess not, especially not with a gay man. Anyway i started becoming friends with some guys in my year recently, and my ex is friends with them too now, and i think that ruined any progress we were making. One of them hosted a get together for our last day of HS and there was girls present too. I told him about it a couple days prior and he agreed to go too and all was well. Until i came to him about concerns with our relationship in college. With my knowledge on how sensitive he is about parties, college was going to be a different beast to tame so i thought i’d bring it up in advance to avoid any potential fights. Bad idea, we ended up broken up again (important to note i brought up parties as an example of my concerns because that’s something he got upset about a lot, not because i care about attending every party, im not very social outside my friend group anyways) and i still wanted to go too this end of year highschool party to celebrate being done. He calls me sobbing on the phone telling me he’s sorry and asking me to come see him instead of go to this party, because he didn’t want to go anymore. I can’t really put into words how that made me feel but I ended up saying no because he hurt me in that fight and I’m somehow always the one that needs to fix it. Anyways he ended up coming, we got back together. And boom we broke up the next day because I struggle with SH and I relapsed and i gave up on trying to help myself because i find that difficult when i have someone else to help instead. he asked if i could try and get better for him and i said no for a long time until i finally agreed because i missed him. Now as of yesterday he randomly brings up college parties again and says it’s a boundary for me to not attend a college party unless he’s there, and im like ofc i want you there but if you can’t make it why do i have to miss out? Not that i need to go but just the principle of it is upsetting because obviously this isn’t about parties this is about trust. I get it if im drinking and he’s not there if not just for safety reasons but i promised i would stay completely sober. I asked him if this was because of insecurity and he got exponentially pissed and started saying “why are you so mean” “why are you doing this to me” “what did i do to deserve this” and i ask him to stop guilt tripping me and he says he’s not, he says “if you hate it so much then leave me” after i say “it’s a boundary of mine for you to control what i do” especially after years of controlling me already, im an adult now. That’s all i asked for and he’s giving me ultimatums that i have to choose parties or him and i don’t know how to respond because it’s not about the parties and ive repeated that 50 times at this point. I am fine with him going to parties without me and drinking without me, obviously id be there if i could but im not worried about him cheating because if he did im simply leaving him, and thats all there is to it. He’s never been in a serious relationship besides me so i dont know what causes him to doubt my loyalty, he even got away with controlling me for 3 years. We only starting breaking up over and over again when i stopped accepting it. I’m not innocent here though, I do have a history of egging him on in fights and being sarcastic which tends to worsen things but it’s purely a defense mechanism. Anyway we ended things mutually? I guess? I don’t know if we should keep it that way or if i should try and get him back because i do love him more than anything and he’s helped me through a lot more than anyone else ever has. He’s an amazing guy, always has been. But while the good times are good, the bad times always get so much worse. Sorry this was so long, just need advice. (One more note, I’ve done plenty wrong in our relationship over 4 years and some of his anger in justified in that lens but i’m not sure i deserve this much…”