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I (30M) met a woman (36F) on a dating app in Dec 2025. She was from Delhi. We exchanged numbers and started talking daily — long audio and video calls for hours. Initially, she told me her breakup happened almost a year ago, but later she admitted it had only been around 2 months.

She told me she had no parents and lived alone. She was also unemployed at the time because she didn’t have any active projects. Very quickly, she became emotionally attached and started saying things like how happy she felt again, how we were in a relationship, and she shared a lot about her family issues and emotional struggles.

Over time, she started asking me for money for household expenses, rent, and emergencies. In about 5 months, I gave her around ₹1.7 lakh, excluding other expenses.

We met for the first time in February and then again in March. In person, I noticed she was very dominating and would yell at me over small things — how I ate, slept, behaved, etc. During one argument, I got so frustrated that I kicked a door and injured my leg badly.

After I returned home, within a week she suddenly said she couldn’t continue the relationship and that I wasn’t the kind of man she wanted. Whenever I tried explaining my side, she barely listened and always acted like everything was my fault.

Then she started talking normally again. One day she fell ill, and I immediately traveled around 200 km to Delhi to help her. I stayed with her for a full day and night, took care of her, and took her to the hospital. I came back the next day because I had office work. But instead of appreciating it, she still somehow found faults in me.

Mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially, this whole situation drained me.

Now she barely calls first, accuses me of cheating with my students and female friends (which I never did), and constantly talks about her ex — how badly he treated her and how deeply hurt she still is. Honestly, I feel she never moved on from her ex, and during that phase she used me for emotional support, attention, companionship, and financial help.

At one point, I blocked her everywhere, including Truecaller. Then I noticed community comments on her number saying things like:“Sabki zindagi kharab karne wali”“Fake person”“Timepass”“Beware of this fraud”

When I confronted her, she got angry and said anyone can write those comments because she had been on dating and matrimonial apps before me.

Now I’m genuinely confused:Was this just incompatibility?Was I emotionally manipulated and financially used?Or does this sound like narcissistic behavior / possible fraud?

Would appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who’ve experienced something similar.

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I (30M) met a woman (36F) on a dating app in Dec 2025. She was from Delhi. We exchanged numbers and started talking daily — long audio and video calls for hours. Initially, she told me her breakup happened almost a year ago, but later she admitted it had only been around 2 months.

She told me she had no parents and lived alone. She was also unemployed at the time because she didn’t have any active projects. Very quickly, she became emotionally attached and started saying things like how happy she felt again, how we were in a relationship, and she shared a lot about her family issues and emotional struggles.

Over time, she started asking me for money for household expenses, rent, and emergencies. In about 5 months, I gave her around ₹1.7 lakh, excluding other expenses.

We met for the first time in February and then again in March. In person, I noticed she was very dominating and would yell at me over small things — how I ate, slept, behaved, etc. During one argument, I got so frustrated that I kicked a door and injured my leg badly.

After I returned home, within a week she suddenly said she couldn’t continue the relationship and that I wasn’t the kind of man she wanted. Whenever I tried explaining my side, she barely listened and always acted like everything was my fault.

Then she started talking normally again. One day she fell ill, and I immediately traveled around 200 km to Delhi to help her. I stayed with her for a full day and night, took care of her, and took her to the hospital. I came back the next day because I had office work. But instead of appreciating it, she still somehow found faults in me.

Mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially, this whole situation drained me.

Now she barely calls first, accuses me of cheating with my students and female friends (which I never did), and constantly talks about her ex — how badly he treated her and how deeply hurt she still is. Honestly, I feel she never moved on from her ex, and during that phase she used me for emotional support, attention, companionship, and financial help.

At one point, I blocked her everywhere, including Truecaller. Then I noticed community comments on her number saying things like: “Sabki zindagi kharab karne wali” “Fake person” “Timepass” “Beware of this fraud”

When I confronted her, she got angry and said anyone can write those comments because she had been on dating and matrimonial apps before me.

Now I’m genuinely confused: Was this just incompatibility? Was I emotionally manipulated and financially used? Or does this sound like narcissistic behavior / possible fraud?

Would appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who’ve experienced something similar.

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I (30M) met a woman (36F) on a dating app in Dec 2025. She was from Delhi. We exchanged numbers and started talking daily — long audio and video calls for hours. Initially, she told me her breakup happened almost a year ago, but later she admitted it had only been around 2 months.

She told me she had no parents and lived alone. She was also unemployed at the time because she didn’t have any active projects. Very quickly, she became emotionally attached and started saying things like how happy she felt again, how we were in a relationship, and she shared a lot about her family issues and emotional struggles.

Over time, she started asking me for money for household expenses, rent, and emergencies. In about 5 months, I gave her around ₹1.7 lakh, excluding other expenses.

We met for the first time in February and then again in March. In person, I noticed she was very dominating and would yell at me over small things — how I ate, slept, behaved, etc. During one argument, I got so frustrated that I kicked a door and injured my leg badly.

After I returned home, within a week she suddenly said she couldn’t continue the relationship and that I wasn’t the kind of man she wanted. Whenever I tried explaining my side, she barely listened and always acted like everything was my fault.

Then she started talking normally again. One day she fell ill, and I immediately traveled around 200 km to Delhi to help her. I stayed with her for a full day and night, took care of her, and took her to the hospital. I came back the next day because I had office work. But instead of appreciating it, she still somehow found faults in me.

Mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially, this whole situation drained me.

Now she barely calls first, accuses me of cheating with my students and female friends (which I never did), and constantly talks about her ex — how badly he treated her and how deeply hurt she still is. Honestly, I feel she never moved on from her ex, and during that phase she used me for emotional support, attention, companionship, and financial help.

At one point, I blocked her everywhere, including Truecaller. Then I noticed community comments on her number saying things like: “Sabki zindagi kharab karne wali” “Fake person” “Timepass” “Beware of this fraud”

When I confronted her, she got angry and said anyone can write those comments because she had been on dating and matrimonial apps before me.

Now I’m genuinely confused: Was this just incompatibility? Was I emotionally manipulated and financially used? Or does this sound like narcissistic behavior / possible fraud?

Would appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who’ve experienced something similar.

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I (30M) met a woman (36F) on a dating app in Dec 2025. She was from Delhi. We exchanged numbers and started talking daily — long audio and video calls for hours. Initially, she told me her breakup happened almost a year ago, but later she admitted it had only been around 2 months.

She told me she had no parents and lived alone. She was also unemployed at the time because she didn’t have any active projects. Very quickly, she became emotionally attached and started saying things like how happy she felt again, how we were in a relationship, and she shared a lot about her family issues and emotional struggles.

Over time, she started asking me for money for household expenses, rent, and emergencies. In about 5 months, I gave her around ₹1.7 lakh, excluding other expenses.

We met for the first time in February and then again in March. In person, I noticed she was very dominating and would yell at me over small things — how I ate, slept, behaved, etc. During one argument, I got so frustrated that I kicked a door and injured my leg badly.

After I returned home, within a week she suddenly said she couldn’t continue the relationship and that I wasn’t the kind of man she wanted. Whenever I tried explaining my side, she barely listened and always acted like everything was my fault.

Then she started talking normally again. One day she fell ill, and I immediately traveled around 200 km to Delhi to help her. I stayed with her for a full day and night, took care of her, and took her to the hospital. I came back the next day because I had office work. But instead of appreciating it, she still somehow found faults in me.

Mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially, this whole situation drained me.

Now she barely calls first, accuses me of cheating with my students and female friends (which I never did), and constantly talks about her ex — how badly he treated her and how deeply hurt she still is. Honestly, I feel she never moved on from her ex, and during that phase she used me for emotional support, attention, companionship, and financial help.

At one point, I blocked her everywhere, including Truecaller. Then I noticed community comments on her number saying things like: “Sabki zindagi kharab karne wali” “Fake person” “Timepass” “Beware of this fraud”

When I confronted her, she got angry and said anyone can write those comments because she had been on dating and matrimonial apps before me.

Now I’m genuinely confused: Was this just incompatibility? Was I emotionally manipulated and financially used? Or does this sound like narcissistic behavior / possible fraud?

Would appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who’ve experienced something similar.