I (28M) met a girl (28F) about 3 months ago, and things moved pretty naturally but also quite fast. From the beginning, we had a strong connection, same values, same interests, great communication, and a lot of physical and emotional intimacy.
After the first month, we started seeing each other more often 3/4 times a week. It felt easy and mutual. She was very affectionate, she’d run to hug me whenever we met. She told me multiple times that this was the healthiest relationship she’s had, that no one had treated her the way I do, and that we were meant to be together. She also introduced me to her friends and talked about me to her parents.
At some point, she told me she loved me. I said it back during a meaningful moment together.
Two days later, she texted me saying she’s not sure about the relationship and that she feels like she lost her feelings. That completely blindsided me.
We met to talk, but I didn’t really get a clear explanation. She kept saying I did nothing wrong and that it’s not my fault but it's her not is not ready, but couldn’t explain what changed. What confused me even more is that during that conversation, she was still physically close and even kissed me.
After that, she suggested staying friends. I tried talking to her for a few days to understand what happened, but it didn’t bring clarity. Eventually I told her it’s better we stop talking and I went no contact.
It’s been really hard. I feel like I’m going through some kind of withdrawal, it’s not just emotional, it’s physical.
I’ve been trying to make sense of it. One thing I came across is avoidant attachment, but I’m not sure if that really applies here since there weren’t clear signs during the relationship, everything felt smooth until the sudden shift.
Has anyone experienced something similar?
Is this just how early relationships sometimes work? I went through breakups before but this one hit me hard even if I knew her only for 3 months.