u/Admirable-Source301

Confronted wife on find me app location. I’m 48M and she is 42F. Been married for a year. She told me she was in one city but I saw she was in another. She stopped at a residence for 2 hours between 8-10pm and then went somewhere else. I confronted her the next morning and she admitted she went to that town but denied she was in that location. Is it possible that the find my app got stuck? I watched it in real time as she was there. It would move slightly back and forth but stayed in the general house. She got mad and gaslighted me for not believing her and now doesn’t want anything to do with me. She has an ex lover in that same town and I’m afraid she went to be with him for that time and refuses to admit to it. I want to get a private investigator to look up the ownership records of that location. What should I think or do? Should I believe her? She initially lied to me and said she was not in that town in the first place. And she admitted after I showed her the screenshot. she was there to pick up her car at the mechanic, which I’m sure is true, but doesn’t explain why she was at that location for 2 hours. She says she doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t want anything to do with me. And feels betrayed that I don’t believe her. Could she possibly be telling the truth? That she was never in that location?

My wife had an emotional relationship with another guy before she met me. They never had sex and it was a long distance affair. She met me afterwards and we eventually got married. We have been married for a year. She was always open with me about the other guy. And they stayed in contact with my knowledge and approval. We ended up visiting his hometown and I had to travel to my hometown to go back to work and she stayed longer. She asked me if she could sleep with him and I gave her permission. She gave me his contact information and told me to set it up. I was at my hometown at this time. I messaged him and rented an Airbnb for them. She went there and waited for him. She sent nude pictures and sexy lingerie pictures to both of us. Then she told me he arrived, and then no more messages. I tried to text her again, and no response for about an hour. I saw the blue checkmarks after an hour then she sent me a video message and said she was there with the guy. Then said they talked and kissed and went to the bedroom. And kept kissing and kissing and then had sex. I was excited for her to have that experience, but when she said the guy came and then didn’t respond afterwards, my heart sunk. I was hoping they wouldn’t do it. I didn’t think I would be jealous but when the moment came, I was. And when she told me the brief details in her audio message I had a mix of emotions. When you cross that line, there is no coming back. I video called her about 20 minutes later and she answered. She just showed her face. And eventually showed me her body and she was sitting naked in bed. She said the guy was asleep next to her. And told me how much she loved me and thanked me for giving her that experience. She said she really enjoyed it. That gave me some relief but still had mixed feelings. She said we could talk again in the morning. I was wide awake and couldn’t sleep. I was google searching the topic and at 1:30 am she sent me another text saying he had left and was alone. She said they had just had another round of sex before he left and absolutely loved it. And explained some of the positions like doggy style ect. She didn’t go into much detail and I didn’t tell her I was struggling with jealousy and mixed feelings. I was wondering if I had just made a huge mistake. This afternoon I feel a lot better about it but hasn’t given me a lot of details. My wife is drop dead gorgeous and absolutely loves sex. So that makes me more jealous thinking that my hot wife is boning another guy and absolutely loving it. I didn’t think that I would be jealous but when it happened, I truly was and still am. I’m still in shock and today has really been a blur. I’ve been trying to do things to get my mind off of it, and we haven’t texted much today. I texted the guy and thanked him for fulfilling my wife’s fantasy. Because she always wanted to have sex with him and they never did before. I did this because I love my wife dearly and would do anything for her. I haven’t told her I was jealous, just that I love her very much and glad she could fulfill her fantasy. It really has brought us closer, but if you don’t think you will be jealous when it happens, you are wrong. You will be jealous and regret it when it happens. You have to fight through those feelings and remember why you did this in the first place. That you dearly love your wife and will always obey her. So now I am setting up more encounters with the guy so he can bone my wife senseless for the next 5 days before she returns to her town. I’m still jealous but maybe not as much as the moment she did it the first time. He said he will share the video he made with my wife later on today. I’m not sure if that will help me accept what just happened or make me jealous. Or maybe I will absolutely love it. I don’t know how I will feel