u/AdeptDebt560

This is not an ocean of goodness. Yes, struggles are real here. But trying to only capitalize on having positive experiences will ruin your experience here.

While we must try to have a peaceful, joyful life, that’s not what mostly happens. If you only want it to be a happy place, I’m sorry, but you are up for a bad journey ahead.

Life comes in all shapes and shades of blue, colorful hues. And only wanting one thing will only keep you aloof. Because one thing - it’s not possible. And the other is that you are just putting yourself in some sort of danger.

While we all strive, and ideally should, to be in a good mood more than a bad one, don’t forget that the bad also has every right to be here. And if you keep being aloof to it, it surely will keep you in a lot more misery than you think or want.

Not saying to become totally pessimistic, or to become so aloof that you stop seeing the truth. But the truth is that it’s just life, and it has seasons.

Some very bad, some very good, and some in the middle of it.

And in those moments, you must face the reality of things as they are and not try to escape the world as it is. Because that rarely happens.

Yes, it will suck at times, and it will feel good as well.

So what? I really don’t know. I just needed to get this off my chest.

This is not an ocean of goodness.

Yes, struggles are real here.

But trying to only capitalize on having positive experiences will ruin your experience here.

While we must try to have a peaceful, joyful life, that’s not what mostly happens.

If you only want it to be a happy place, I’m sorry, but you are up for a bad journey ahead.

Life comes in all shapes and shades of blue, colorful hues.

And only wanting one thing will only keep you aloof. Because one thing - it’s not possible.

And the other is that you are just putting yourself in some sort of danger.

While we all strive, and ideally should, to be in a good mood more than a bad one, don’t forget that the bad also has every right to be here.

And if you keep being aloof to it, it surely will keep you in a lot more misery than you think or want.

Not saying to become totally pessimistic, or to become so aloof that you stop seeing the truth.

But the truth is that it’s just life, and it has seasons.

Some very bad, some very good, and some in the middle of it.

And in those moments, you must face the reality of things as they are and not try to escape the world as it is.

Because that rarely happens.

Yes, it will suck at times, and it will feel good as well.

So what? I really don’t know.

I just needed to get this off my chest.

This is not an ocean of goodness. Yes, struggles are real here. But trying to only capitalize on having positive experiences will ruin your experience here.

While we must try to have a peaceful, joyful life, that’s not what mostly happens. If you only want it to be a happy place, I’m sorry, but you are up for a bad journey ahead.

Life comes in all shapes and shades of blue, colorful hues. And only wanting one thing will only keep you aloof. Because one thing - it’s not possible. And the other is that you are just putting yourself in some sort of danger.

While we all strive, and ideally should, to be in a good mood more than a bad one, don’t forget that the bad also has every right to be here. And if you keep being aloof to it, it surely will keep you in a lot more misery than you think or want.

Not saying to become totally pessimistic, or to become so aloof that you stop seeing the truth. But the truth is that it’s just life, and it has seasons.

Some very bad, some very good, and some in the middle of it.

And in those moments, you must face the reality of things as they are and not try to escape the world as it is. Because that rarely happens.

Yes, it will suck at times, and it will feel good as well.

So what? I really don’t know. I just needed to get this off my chest.

Lately I’ve been realizing how much my relationship with my dad shaped my self-esteem, behavior, and how I see myself.

There was a lot of verbal/emotional stuff—criticism, control, feeling small. I think I internalized it more than I knew.

I even remember being 14–15 and reading that kids with bad relationships with their fathers end up unsuccessful, and it genuinely scared me. I think I’ve carried that fear ever since.

I’m scared of getting into relationships because I don’t want to end up with someone like my dad

Now I:

• feel “less than” around confident people
• overthink everything (even texts)
• people-please and hold back my real self
• feel scared of ending up with someone like him

At the same time, I feel angry. No kid deserves to feel like this.

Has anyone else felt like their identity/self-worth was shaped this much by a parent?

Would really appreciate any insight.

Lately I’ve been realizing how much my relationship with my dad shaped my self-esteem, behavior, and how I see myself.

There was a lot of verbal/emotional stuff—criticism, control, feeling small. I think I internalized it more than I knew.

I even remember being 14–15 and reading that kids with bad relationships with their fathers end up unsuccessful, and it genuinely scared me. I think I’ve carried that fear ever since.

I’m scared of getting into relationships because I don’t want to end up with someone like my dad

Now I:

• feel “less than” around confident people
• overthink everything (even texts)
• people-please and hold back my real self
• feel scared of ending up with someone like him

At the same time, I feel angry. No kid deserves to feel like this.

Has anyone else felt like their identity/self-worth was shaped this much by a parent?

Would really appreciate any insight.

Lately I’ve been realizing how much my relationship with my dad shaped my self-esteem, behavior, and how I see myself.

There was a lot of verbal/emotional stuff—criticism, control, feeling small. I think I internalized it more than I knew.

I even remember being 14–15 and reading that kids with bad relationships with their fathers end up unsuccessful, and it genuinely scared me. I think I’ve carried that fear ever since.

I’m scared of getting into relationships because I don’t want to end up with someone like my dad

Now I:

• feel “less than” around confident people
• overthink everything (even texts)
• people-please and hold back my real self
• feel scared of ending up with someone like him

At the same time, I feel angry. No kid deserves to feel like this.

Has anyone else felt like their identity/self-worth was shaped this much by a parent?

Would really appreciate any insight.