u/Additional_Nose5871

Tl;dr am just tired of seeing people showing issues like which are not even issues just their minds got fucked at that specific , i tried to find subs in which healthy couples sharing their experiences and showing what green flags and what u should do for your partners what lessons to learn what phases comes in relation but there is only negativity in relationship subs no one is posting about their relationship is being healthy and what they do for each other…
I wanna be optimistic about lifee too to see healthy couples teaching the younger ones…

I am 19M , currently single but these are my observations of my past relationship, i wanna see am i a red flag or not….. for me relationship is serious no casual things but even if it is serious i shouldn’t be like u are running it on background i wanna have serious like reserved vibes of partner like we could have friends of opposite gender like work related or classmates u can say but the thing is i dont like when my partner when she adds like her friend’s boyfriend/brothers or just college small influencers and liking their posts , i mean its not about insecurity its for me about boundaries like i would do nothing like that cuz i wanna use all my energy towards the partner i mean u can talk to your friend’s boyfriend/brother occasionally its not an issue, if i have ever will be in relationship i will be just giving attention to her only cuz i dont feel the need of adding any other girls related to my friends or small influencers of college, when we have something important then why giving your attention to anything else i am a yearner if i am in relationship either i am with her or doing career related work or hobbies or with friends i dont like the idea of just socializing with other people who we dont need which i already addressed that “adding people” case… if someone u wanna add which is important or work related just lemme know so i wont get bumped(my anxious attachment thing) transparency needed… i get hurt when i dont do these cuz i know its not right and dont want my partner to overthink and same i expected that thing but instead my partner just casually add people and this is normal how is it normal…
I am not mature at this age but want advice from mature people..