u/AdditionWinter312

TLDR: I think me and my best friend were emotionally dating

I’m (28m) now, and two years later I still think about him (26m) almost every day.

It’s truly a weird heartbreak. Not like a relationship, but it feels that way.

We met in college. From the start, it was constant talking every day, doing everything together. At some point it just made sense for him to move in with me. It felt easy, like we had built this routine without even trying. Then, just as quickly as it came together, it fell apart.

We worked at the same company for a while. When he left, he moved back home, which made sense. That’s around when he met his girlfriend.

Before that, it was always us. We traveled together, went to festivals, hit the gym, literally everything. I’m gay, he’s straight, and people would always ask if we were dating. I think that put pressure on him, even if he said it didn’t bother him.

Then one day, almost out of nowhere, he had a girlfriend. He used to say he just wanted one, so I was genuinely happy for him when it happened. But that’s when things started to shift.

He’s the type to pull back a little when he’s in a relationship, so I expected some distance. But this felt different. Suddenly he was traveling with her, going to concerts, building a life that didn’t include me anymore which I was very excited for him to do. And again, that part made sense. What didn’t make sense was how fast everything else disappeared.

About three weeks in, after they’d already done so much together, I noticed a notification: he stopped sharing his location. It came after I’d sent a few texts he hadn’t answered. It caught me off guard. We were in the middle of planning a trip, so I texted him anyway, figuring we still needed to sort things out.

He never responded.

After that, it was like a slow fade into nothing. He started unfollowing me on everything. No explanation, no argument, nothing I could point to and say, “that’s what went wrong.” Just silence.

Part of me wonders if what we had felt like an emotional relationship to him, and when he started a real one, he cut it off completely. I don’t know. I just know it ended without warning.

And somehow, two years later, I’m still here thinking about him.

This is a throwaway account but I never really talked about this. How do I get over it?

TLDR: I think me and my best friend were emotionally dating

I’m (28m) now, and two years later I still think about him (26m) almost every day.

It’s truly a weird heartbreak. Not like a relationship, but it feels that way.

We met in college. From the start, it was constant talking every day, doing everything together. At some point it just made sense for him to move in with me. It felt easy, like we had built this routine without even trying. Then, just as quickly as it came together, it fell apart.

We worked at the same company for a while. When he left, he moved back home, which made sense. That’s around when he met his girlfriend.

Before that, it was always us. We traveled together, went to festivals, hit the gym, literally everything. I’m gay, he’s straight, and people would always ask if we were dating. I think that put pressure on him, even if he said it didn’t bother him.

Then one day, almost out of nowhere, he had a girlfriend. He used to say he just wanted one, so I was genuinely happy for him when it happened. But that’s when things started to shift.

He’s the type to pull back a little when he’s in a relationship, so I expected some distance. But this felt different. Suddenly he was traveling with her, going to concerts, building a life that didn’t include me anymore which I was very excited for him to do. And again, that part made sense. What didn’t make sense was how fast everything else disappeared.

About three weeks in, after they’d already done so much together, I noticed a notification: he stopped sharing his location. It came after I’d sent a few texts he hadn’t answered. It caught me off guard. We were in the middle of planning a trip, so I texted him anyway, figuring we still needed to sort things out.

He never responded.

After that, it was like a slow fade into nothing. He started unfollowing me on everything. No explanation, no argument, nothing I could point to and say, “that’s what went wrong.” Just silence.

Part of me wonders if what we had felt like an emotional relationship to him, and when he started a real one, he cut it off completely. I don’t know. I just know it ended without warning.

And somehow, two years later, I’m still here thinking about him.

This is a throwaway account but I never really talked about this.

I’m (28m) now, and two years later I still think about him (26m) almost every day.

It’s truly a weird heartbreak. Not like a relationship, but it feels that way.

We met in college. From the start, it was constant talking every day, doing everything together. At some point it just made sense for him to move in with me. It felt easy, like we had built this routine without even trying. Then, just as quickly as it came together, it fell apart.

We worked at the same company for a while. When he left, he moved back home, which made sense. That’s around when he met his girlfriend.

Before that, it was always us. We traveled together, went to festivals, hit the gym, literally everything. I’m gay, he’s straight, and people would always ask if we were dating. I think that put pressure on him, even if he said it didn’t bother him.

Then one day, almost out of nowhere, he had a girlfriend. He used to say he just wanted one, so I was genuinely happy for him when it happened. But that’s when things started to shift.

He’s the type to pull back a little when he’s in a relationship, so I expected some distance. But this felt different. Suddenly he was traveling with her, going to concerts, building a life that didn’t include me anymore which I was very excited for him to do. And again, that part made sense. What didn’t make sense was how fast everything else disappeared.

About three weeks in, after they’d already done so much together, I noticed a notification: he stopped sharing his location. It came after I’d sent a few texts he hadn’t answered. It caught me off guard. We were in the middle of planning a trip, so I texted him anyway, figuring we still needed to sort things out.

He never responded.

After that, it was like a slow fade into nothing. He started unfollowing me on everything. No explanation, no argument, nothing I could point to and say, “that’s what went wrong.” Just silence.

Part of me wonders if what we had felt like an emotional relationship to him, and when he started a real one, he cut it off completely. I don’t know. I just know it ended without warning.

And somehow, two years later, I’m still here thinking about him.

This is a throwaway account but I never really talked about this.