Okay so a few weeks ago I was out with a friend and had stopped to put petrol in my car, my friend stayed in the passenger seat of the car whilst I got out to do it. Whilst I was bending over to get my petrol cap off a car drove past and shouted out “wheeeyyyy” out their window (if you’re not British it’s almost like a celebratory cheer? I guess that’s what you’d call it) and then my friend got out of the car and told me that the boys in the car had been looking at me bent over when they drove past and they were shouting that at me. My friend was very angry for me and I was uncomfortable then and just wanted to get my petrol and get out of there as fast as I could. I messaged my boyfriend about it after it happened and I kind of expected his reaction to be angry or annoyed but it was more just like “oh what? That’s weird” and he moved on from it. In all honesty I wasn’t happy with that reaction because in my head my boyfriend should be angry that someone has cat called me. I was having a conversation with him today and in a joking way I had said at one point “you don’t defend me” (makes sense in the context of the conversation) and he said “I would if someone actually did something bad” and I said “what like shouting ‘wheeeey’ at me when I’m bent over?” (Petty ik) and he said “that’s not that bad, you don’t punch people for catcalling” Honestly that upset me that he said it wasn’t that bad, obviously I never expected him to hunt the boys down and beat them up but I think I’m just annoyed and a bit disappointed that he was never even the slightest bit annoyed or angry that it had happened to me.
How can I talk about this with him? Why does he not think it’s as big a deal as I do?
Thank you for reading!
EDIT: Thank you for the responses I just want to clear some things up because I wrote this post quite late when I was tired and some things are a bit off. When I told my boyfriend about it he had never asked if I was okay or anything and all he had said was “oh what” and it seemed like it was just dismissed quite easily, I have had a conversation where I explicitly said to him that I didn’t expect him to find them and beat them up and even if he had been there I wouldn’t have expected that, but since he said one thing about it and never offered me any comfort im still upset about it.