is this normal to be outed like this by my parents?
I'm almost 15 and have been out for four years already and am 95% stealth. My younger brother is having a Bar Mitzvah party and it is usual for the family hosting the party to make a video of like pictures of the bar mitzvah boy as a kid and pictures of him growing up etc. Against my choices, there is going to be a video that will be including me from before I transitioned and it will be shown to all 80 guests. My parents say they don't want to erase 8 years of my brothers life (family pictures from before I transitioned) which is valid but I think its unfair that I will get outed in front of so many people. The majority of the people going are family friends that knew me from before but there is also gonna be a lot of kids from my brother's school that don't know. I survived 3 years of middle school ducking rumors that I was gay (thankfully no one clocked me for being trans) but I will have to go to school with these kids in two years when they come to high school. My parents have been supportive from the start but they're also tough love people who think that its okay to out me in front of everyone I know. I already had to come out to two of my friends and one of my brother's friends when they came over and saw the family pictures on the wall of my house that my mom isn't willing to move elsewhere. I can survive with two or three people finding out from coming to my house but the one thing I can't handle is having to jeopardize my stealth to 50 people because of a video. My mom said I can't hide who I am and that I need to be more transparent but I think this is crazy. Is this a normal thing for my parents to be doing? How do I tell them my concerns without making it look like i'm trying to hide my identity? please help